Baby name AIBU?

[Scareyclairey0]

We like a girls name. The only thing putting me off potentially is my dh cousin has a cousin on the other side of her family (so not related to my dh) who named her four year old dd this name.
We see the cousin maybe 2-3 times per year. We would only see the cousins cousin maybe yearly or less at big family events such as weddings or birthdays.

Would we be unreasonable to use the name?

Wtf? Of course not..

I know it may seem a strange thing to ask but I would hate them to feel as though we had copied the name somehow or offend anyone.
They have a history of taking offence easily to things so maybe why I’m treading on egg shells.

Not unreasonable. Someone you see less than once a year, it's not even worth thinking about it! If you based names on that you wouldn't be able to use any name.

I share a name with my cousin's cousin. I have literally met them about 3 times. I meet other people with my name all the time and its not a big deal.

Also if you see the family so infrequently who cares if they're offended. If this sort of thing offends them they must be very hard work and it's probably easier not to be around them anyway!

My sister called her baby boy the same name as my second cousins daughter (is that a third cousin? I've no idea!!) called her baby boy. Seriously, no one batted an eyelid - though they're probably in a room together once a year, if that. If you have a real connection to the name and you love it, then use it. If they mind enough to say to you, they're odd.

They are odd
But I don’t think it will put me off. I just wanted some outside opinions before we go ahead probably cause some tension!

No problem, not too closely related- use the name you like. Good luck.

No, that’s fine. Tricky with first cousins but fine in the situation you’ve described.

This is a bit similar to the thread where the poster’s husband’s cousin called her twinsets the same she names as the poster’s daughters!?

You don’t have twins do you🤣

It's fine. My daughter and my niece have the same name and see a lot of each other and it isn't a problem for us or them.

If it was a close relative you saw a lot of I would say maybe have a rethink. But people you see approximately once a year? Nah. If they are offended then they are really weird.

Go for it. You could tell them in advance so they get over it and don't make stroppy comments when you have your baby. You will always regret it if you don't use the name you love.

No, my cousin called her new baby my sons name, it doesn’t matter to me. My SIL called her baby my sons two middle names, also not bothered. Go ahead and if anything is said (it won’t) say you’ve liked it for ages.