OLD + photo = misery

[Fuzzywig]

What is it with men?

I joined a OLD site a couple of days ago. I received messages from a few men, I started chatting to two. I sent a photo to one who stopped chatting after he received my photo. WTF.

I am not that hideous.... honestly!

You gotta put the picture up on the profile. How would your ex even know about it?

Motherhood, you dodged a bullet. DH is nearing the end of his PhD and it's been a painful experience for all!

I will second PP that suggested coming off for the time being. You do need a very thick skin with OLD, it’s an absolute minefield filled with arrogant arseholes. I only bothered with it when I knew my confidence and self esteem were at their absolute peak, I doubt I’d have coped otherwise.

Lol Motherhood at least you got an excuse.

I know a lot about this guy where he works, his full name etc so it just seemed a bit odd. I think he peed his pants a bit as it sounds as though he’s been on his own for a while.

The ex is on dating sites I have seen his profile.

Try putting some pictures on this site www.photofeeler.com

It’s really useful to compare different shots and the notes help you to understand what other people see when they look at your photos. It can be anything, read some of the blogs too, so interesting!

Thanks Dorris I might try that x

My exh was on the same dating site as me, he told me I had lied about myself in my profile. Cheeky fucker, didn’t realised I had changed a lot since he left. I am a much calmer, nicer person now.

Lol Let’s I am a much calmer and nicer person too - until he starts with his fuckwitery - he’s only nice when he wants something and a fuckwit at all other times.

His reaction was rude but please don't think you are unattractive, you just weren't attractive to him. Gosh when I was on dating sites there were only about 5 men I liked the face of and I looked through hundreds! But the others were still mostly attractive, just not my type. But yeah he was rude to just go silent like that.

Maybe it was your question Fuzzywig not the photo - maybe his photo was ten years old and he felt awkward being caught out?!

It could have been my question re his photo.

I guess if I looked like his Mum/Aunt/horse it would be offputting but it would have been nice to know.

Oh well... live and learn.

Thanks everyone.

Not everyone will fancy you and that is absolutely fine as you don’t fancy every man you see do you?

Why are you sending photos? Surely the point of online dating is that pics are up and people then decide to contact or not. Doesn’t not having photos just make it look like you are hiding something (ie married) who care if your ex slags you off for online dating? Your a free agent and can do as you wish plus it’s 2018 everyone is doing it

If you put up a photo to begin with then it will prevent men who think / hope they can do better from starting a conversation with you in the first place

If you knew my ex you’d understand why.

Thanks anyway