Someone tell me to get a grip...

[Dollygirl2008]

I don't know why I'm asking AIBU? I know I am...

I know I'm being ridiculous but I need a voice(s) of reason. I am a single parent to a nearly 10 year old DD. It's just me and her and she is my absolute world. Recently, she has started getting spots on her nose and I'm freaking out! She doesn't seem bothered so I'm hiding it, but I feel totally unprepared and almost dreading this phase - I'm so worried about bullying etc.

She's developing earlier than all of her friends and we are very open and have discussed puberty in detail - I'm trying to do the right thing. But this sudden change to my DDs "peaches and cream" skin is literally causing me anxiety, and I can't seem to get to the bottom of why.
As I type, I realise how ridiculous I sound, but I just can't help it.

I can't really talk to anyone in real life because it sounds so selfish, but I'd appreciate some words

Why not just buy some cleanser and spot cream?

Sudocrem. It's magical.

And... get a grip

Thank you mummymonkey - I actually think I really needed someone to say it! interesting re the sudocrem. I use it for everything else!

I actually spend too much time on my own - I internalise EVERYTHING. It's actually soul-destroying being like this!

It’s just puberty. A bit earlier than the average maybe, but totally normal. I teach kids this age and they do get spots. Just get an age-appropriate cream for them and stop worrying.

I do understand how you feel. My 10 yo DD is in ladies size 6-8 as she's hit puberty quite quickly and even age 14 doesn't fit her new shape. I've found it quite difficult to accept tbh. It's good that you're being open with her regarding puberty, at least then there will be no surprises for her if AF arrives soon.

I've no solution but I felt sad to see no replies to your plea for help.
I have two daughters and they developed at different ages and both had spots and pimples and all sorts but so did their friends.
You sound like a brilliant mum as you say she is my absolute world and that sounds as if you care so much that no matter how many things happen she will be fine because of your solid love for her.

Thank you imnotaslimjim. I think I've spent so long trying to educate her and getting her to embrace her body changes, that I forgot to get myself ready!!! But the spot thing - well, I'd forgotten that bit!!!!!!

I'd like to take her to the chemist to ask their opinion if an age appropriate treatment but I don't want to make it "an issue".

John - thank you for your kind words - I have tears in my eyes!!

Maybe you are worrying because your baby girl is growing up quicker than you ever imagined she would!
My step daughter has started puberty at a very young age and I constantly worry about her. I just think it's totally natural to feel the way you are feeling.
We were all young girls once and we know the phases that a child will grow through as they enter into their teenage years.
As other people have suggested; teach her how to cleanse and moisturise her skin and show her how to deal with outbreaks as they come but also don't make her too aware of having spots and giving her a complex about them iyswim. I agree with Sudocrem I use it on all of my spots and it's never failed me.

Thank you all for your incredibly kind words x

I was an "early bloomer" and found it sooooo exciting when my skin started changing and my mum took me shopping for clearasil and the like
I think it sounds like you have done a great job preparing DD for growing up, yet not prepared yourself! Try not to panic, just embrace this next stage in your DDs life

Thank you kittenface - lovely to hear a different perspective!