To be worried I’ve left it too late to meet someone

[pearandpink]

Late thirties ... am I being stupid to think I can still meet someone who will love me?

Why would it be too late? Love doesn’t end at 35!
I married DH at 39 (we moved in together when I was 37). It’s never too late for love. There’s a whole life ahead of you and plenty of people to meet!

It's not too late at all.
I had a string of dreadful relationships up until the age of 35 when I decided enough was enough and remained single for over 3 years.
I met the love of my life aged 38 and we're now engaged!

Have you had relationships in the past, OP?

Not for a while.

To be honest I have put on weight in the last two years. It’s had a detrimental effect on my appearance and confidence.

People meet someone they love in their 80s! Late 30s is young you have lots of time! I’m 43 and met the one two years ago and engaged now! You need to put yourself in a situation where you will meet someone. For me that was old which I had never done before but people meet doing hobbies etc etc

It is never too late. I met my now husband at 36 and we are expecting our first child at 41. Before that no relationship had ever been right. I understand about the weight issue, as it is a constant battle for me too. It's not about how attractive you are but rather how you feel and project yourself. Maybe set a six month goal of eliminating junk food and booze and starting an exercise programme? Just six months initially. Use the time to focus on you, your goals and what you want from life amdt a partner. Then reassess how you feel at the end of this time. Hope this helps...I don't mean to be patronising, I am honestly speaking from personal experience. Good luck to you.

You could meet someone in your 40s and potentially still have 30-40 years together :)

I know the feeling OP. I'm 35 with a 7 year old DD. Broke up with her Dad in April. Feel like that's it... I'll never meet anyone else.

melissa, that’s really early days, be kind to yourself. I do feel lonely, though.

Thanks @pearandpink. I know how you feel though. I have loads of friends etc etc... it's just hard sometimes xx

It’s not too late. No.

Definitely not too late. I got married at 39 and we now have a lovely toddler DS. (And I'm fairly plump )

They wouldn’t be too late at all!

*that

Of course it isn’t. I have friends who have met people from all ages from 17-70!

The question is, do you want to, and how would you like to go about it?

Jeez I’m 39, so I hope not
I’m not looking at the moment and have kids so I’m sure you’ll meet someone just perhaps don’t look to hard, enjoy life & make a life yourself so when you meet someone you can enjoy yourself but also have a life outside of a relationship,

I have a friend whose life is looking for a man, that’s all she talks about so she has little to give as she thinks that will change her life and make her happy, but won’t listen to anyone about waiting and making a life and being happy and content herself first so a relationship enhances her life instead of being her life - not sure if that makes sense

People will always come onto threads like these and say I met my OH and had a baby at 40, but I don't feel this is the norm. It is harder to meet someone decent the older you get. It's a fact of life. I say decent because yes you can find "someone" but you want someone who enhances your life, not drags you down! If your confidence is low you need to work on that first, otherwise yes you will attract someone but it will be the wrong sort of person. I speak from experience! If your weight is making you unhappy, tackle it for you not anyone else. Physical appearance is a very tiny part of a relationship. Confidence in yourself is a much bigger part.

Statistically and logically you are BU! If the population is roughly 50/50 by gender, and if most people are monogamous, and allowing for deductions for homosexuality and asexuality, there should be roughly the same number of available males as available females. Also you have the whole age range to explore, from toy boy to more mature. So the fact that you are in your late thirties shouldn't have bearing on how many available males there are!

Recently single at 38 after 17 years! I bloody hope so!

Maybe start by making sure that you love yourself first. Get comfortable about who you are and you can then get more confident about meeting people and forming a relationship. 30's is a great age to meet, socialise, have fun and fall in love.

It depends, do you want children? Because that can give way to blind panic. If so, good luck, if not there is no problem. I think a lot of women go through this. I did and a wise friend told me to consider all options re having children before 45 then live with those choices. The world is full of men wanting sex and companionship, ever tried to do something simple like go for milk or sit on a bench with a book? Men will flock. Being alone is wonderful IF that is a decision. Want a baby? Just walk out of your house, want real love? Once in a lifetime. The family ideal is that, an ideal, it rarely exists. Good luck.x

Hahaha. No way. Enjoyed myself then I met DDs father at 33. Had her at 35. Split at 40. Met DH at 44 married at (46) for the first (and hope only) time..,,,nope lots of time for you to meet someone.

You do need to be strong. Know exactly what you want. You are choosing a potential partner when you decide to settle down not just accepting someone who wants you now/tomorrow

Or you could choose to have fun and see where life takes you 😀