To want DH to listen to what I say?

[Drummingisfun]

Increasingly recently DH has become truly shocking at remembering things that I say to him/discussions that we have.

I am unsure if he actually just doesn't pay attention to anything that we talk about, or if his memory is really really bad and I should be worried.

For example, one evening I suggested an activity to do with the DC the following morning. He agreed. The following morning he asked he pipes up "what shall we do today?" as if the conversation had never happened.

Honestly, it is making me feel a bit like I might as well not bother talking to since he apparently doesn't listen anyway.
Does anyone else have a similar issue?

Yes. My DH is the same. I'm noticing it more and more and, to be honest, I cannot remember when it really started. Perhaps it has always been so.

For example, every year he asks me what I would like for Xmas then gets me the exact opposite. Family always think its funny, but its really starting to piss me off as it just shows that I am not listened to, which makes me feel disrespected really.

Actually, when he even asks me a question I can tell he doesn't bother even listening to my answer because when I have finished talking he always says 'pardon'. I've started ignoring him when he says pardon these days.

Yeh my dp does this and it drives me nuts.

Dp: do you want a drink
Me: yes please
10 minutes pass, no drink appears
Dp: hey love, do you want a drink?

I also frequently have the conversation

Dp: are you doing anything tomorrow?
Me: yep, x y and z
Next day
Dp: so are you up to much today?

Like you, I'm not sure if it's memory problems or just not listening.

How old is your DH, @Drummingisfun?

Have y9u tried...

What needs to happen so you'll remember this convo?

Do you remember everything that he says?

Greenfingers he is 37

tillytrotter I may not remember every tiny detail but I certainly do remember the sorts of things that he routinely doesn't remember. Eg

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I suspect that he would be cross if I try it, but I might try anyway.

Perhaps you need to get a notice board, either a chalk one or one for board markers. And then anything important, you can write it down on there? Perhaps a trip to the doctors wouldn't be a bad idea though, just to make sure.

My dad used to tell mum to put her finger in her ear to stop the information flying straight in and out the other side.

That happens here too. I say I told him, he says 'yeah, yeah I was just checking.' He just doesn't remember anything that isn't directly necessary to him.