AIBU- to hate socially correct devils ?

[ILoveHumanity]

You know Those people that do all the right things to cover their own back in society and gain status...

Only to use that status and good reputation to isolate and bully you , leaving you with no one that believes you ... because infront of everyone they made it a life long mission to appear as perfect and saints ..

But their sainthood is just a mask ... to camouflage while they spread then venom into you and your life , experiencing no resistance..

Have you experienced them ? Do you hate them ? Any good ending for you ?

Aibu that I hate them or am I over thinkng this? Is there such people

u ok hun?

Feeling better after the rant :-),

But as ok as u can b while feeling socially isolated and publically slandered and humiliated by a human being who is socially fake ..

Sometimes I think society is designed so that such people can prosper.

Thanks for asking tho

What are you doing to avoid them? Can you avoid them?

It might be the last thing you want to do, but kill them with kindness and muster up as much confidence as you can to show them you're not bothered. At least that's what I do and I find that it filters out those who want to be your friend from those who don't.

I also think these people trip up eventually and it's a pretty spectacular fall from grace when they do. Keep being yourself and be grateful you don't have to fake your way through life.

Are you being bullied at work OP? If so I feel your pain, because it can often lead to having to leave because of the situation you describe.

If it is a social situation, it's still vile, but you may have choices and options to go completely NC

If you are willing to share a little bit more then maybe we can help untangle things for you (even if you need to alter some details if you want to protect your identity)

Whatever, try to be kind to yourself and not place the blame on who you are. It sounds like they have the problem not you

Iftar I sure hope that trip up from grace is very soon.. I’m trying my best to avoid them but they seem obsessed with not letting it happen and to be fair circumstances dictate that we must forever be in each other’s lives. I tried minimising contact but they found a way to socially slander me for that and sounding like the victim.

daisy thanks for the advice. Actually it is a very complicated relationship I have with them which tangles me up. They are very socially successful and I was lured into their trap and now I’m very stuck.

It makes me feel very lonely and angry inside I wish I was able to at least fake the fact I’m so weak and defeated

Humanity I'm sorry you're entwined with them for the foreseeable, time to think of how you can interact with them in the most minimal way possible. Doesn't help the slander though. Can you build yourself up with a couple of friends who've also been the target of this person's attention? It is rare you'll have been the only one targeted unfortunately.. and it may give you someone to talk to irl? for you.

So I'd like to challenge you (in a supportive way) that you have to keep contact with that person or even maintain any association with them. What would happen if you did walk away and not look back?Rhetorical question, just to run that idea past you.

I can't think of any circumstance that means you are mandated to keep someone in your life. Be your own agent of change. Try to separate your preconceived fixed ideas about what you believe to be true and what could become a new truth.

I won't labour the point as I sense your OP was just an opportunity to vent rather than wanting to go into things in great depth (you have no need to do that, and this forum can be good for just a good old vent!)

Take care.