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To ring 101 - worried about neighbour

24 replies

BlueRain1 · 28/08/2018 01:09

The house next door to mine (we share a party wall) a man and woman have been shouting/arguing really loudly for the last half hour or so. Lots of swearing, shouting and door slamming. I can hear the woman crying Sad and proper sobbing. I don't know her name but I'm really worried about her. Wibu to call 101 so they can check she's OK? I can't go and check on her myself because I'm in my Pj's with wet hair and I don't know them very well (other than it's a couple that live there). What should I do?

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Anxious2niteaaah · 28/08/2018 01:11

If you think she is in danger then of course call them, especially if he sounds like he is being abusive and violent towards her...

PippilottaLongstocking · 28/08/2018 01:12

It could just be a bad argument/break up, in which case there’s nothing at all the police can do to help (assuming no one’s been physically hurt)

FissionChips · 28/08/2018 01:12

Did it sound like violence or just an argument with lots of shouting and door slamming?

GrabbyMcGrabby · 28/08/2018 01:13

do it. don't put yourself in danger

IWantMyHatBack · 28/08/2018 01:13

I'd ring 999 if I could hear that much fighting through the wall.

PippilottaLongstocking · 28/08/2018 01:14

No harm in calling 101 for advice though. Did it sound like anyone got hurt?

stillnotTheDoctor · 28/08/2018 01:14

They may just have split up. Not all rants/arguments are abusive. There's usually a tone in the voice when it's abusive. It's pretty unmistakable.

IWantMyHatBack · 28/08/2018 01:21

It does depend on what it sounds like. If there's lots of banging and shouting I'd be worried (my perspective may be skewed, I've been on the receiving end of a violent wanker)

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BlueRain1 · 28/08/2018 01:39

I rang 101 - they're sending someone out now. Shouting has increased in the last few minutes and I couldn't sleep tonight without knowing she's safe Sad

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IWantMyHatBack · 28/08/2018 01:40

I'm really glad you called.

BoreOfWhabylon · 28/08/2018 01:46

Well done OP.

Tomatoesrock · 28/08/2018 01:52

You are right to make the call, do you know them otherwise are they violent. I ask as we have a couple from hell near us with young DC and they bash each other, One day someone phoned the Garda, the fight was over when they arrived. After they left she attacked her NDN an elderly lady as she accused her on phoning the Garda.

Just keep safe as they will probably suspect it was you, You done the right thing.

Ginkypig · 28/08/2018 01:57

If it's just a loud argument but not abuse then the police won't do anything so imo never don't call if your worried!

I did once after I heard neighbours through the wall. About 1-30-2am. He was shouting and I heard banging and throwing or breaking of something and I heard her really sobbing and I thought I heard a low scream.
I called 101 told them but said I didn't want to leave my name.
Police turned up quite quickly, he was screaming and fighting with the police and kicking the police car after they had escorted him onto the street. They took him away pretty soon after.
About half an hour later I heard her leave the flat then the sound of a suitcase on the pavement and I never heard her in the flat again after that night.

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BlueRain1 · 28/08/2018 02:09

The Police turned up. Left about 10 mins later. As soon as they'd gone the shouting and noise started again. It's still going on now. Can still hear the woman crying and he keeps calling her a sla* Sad

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Tomatoesrock · 28/08/2018 02:14

That is awful. Their hands are tied if it is an argument. You probably won't get much sleep tonight, if it turns physically violent you will hear it and have to phone again Sad It is a shit situation OP I hope it settles down soon.

Downeyhouse · 28/08/2018 02:22

Well done for calling.

Maybe tonight will be the moment when she realizes this can not continue.

Downeyhouse · 28/08/2018 02:23

My ex was abusive. I so wished someone would have called the police. I would have realized earlier he was abusive.

Scotstar · 28/08/2018 02:32

Phone 999. Straight away

MrsTommyBanks · 28/08/2018 02:33

I wish someone had called the police when I was being battered. Call them again.

Duchessgummybuns · 28/08/2018 02:35

You did the right thing. Hopefully a bad argument is all it was.

Duchessgummybuns · 28/08/2018 02:35

Sorry missed last update. Call 999 now absolutely.

IWantMyHatBack · 28/08/2018 02:37

Yes, agree. Call them back.

GlitteryFluff · 28/08/2018 02:40

You did the right thing.
I think I'd call again if it still sounds bad. Then they can always go back. They might decide not to go out again but at least it's out of your hands then.

TheMaddHugger · 28/08/2018 02:44

call the police back

(((Hug)))

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