To Have Deleted Former Colleague From WhatsApp Group?

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I feel quite shabby and am not interested in hurting feelings but would appreciate perspective.

Two years ago this woman joined our workplace. She said she'd been "bullied out" of two previous posts. We did our best to assure her we were a welcoming, inclusive environment and initially she fitted in well.

Gradually she became more and more difficult to work with, constantly skiving, taking credit for others ideas/work and trying to get others into trouble. She managed to alienate most if not all of the team fairly quickly and we were all very relieved when she took up another post 4 weeks ago. Before she left she asked us to keep her informed of any nights out and made reference to the WhatsApp group.

At work today we were discussing going out and the consensus was we didn't want her there. We need the WhatsApp to arrange things as we're mostly part time and everyone agreed that we should remove her. As group administrator I did so but I feel awful about it, even though she's left. Was AIBU?

You can't set up a new whatsapp group eveytime someone leaves so yanbu.

A bit mean to be honest but it would have happened sooner or later anyway. I stayed in contact with a group of colleagues I worked with years ago. I never really clicked with any of them and had to make a big effort with them. I really did not enjoy being in their company. I deleted most of them a year or two ago but there was one in particular, I felt I couldn't delete as she had been helpful to me outside of work. Earlier this year she deleted me. I was relieved. That chapter of my life finished a long time ago.

Why on earth would you keep a person who no longer works with you in a work group? She's no longer relevant.