About dsd in my bed?

[hotstepper4]

I have a small, 2 bed mid terrace Victorian house. One large bedroom, one tiny.

I have a ds7, and a dsd10, dss8 and dss5. At the moment we have all the boys in the big bedroom - dss's share a bunk bed and ds has a single bed of his own. He used to share a bunk bed with dsd, but when she turned 9 we decided that as the only girl she needed her space, and we bought another bunk bed for mine and dh's room, the small one - a triple bunk, the bottom is a double which me and dh sleep in, and the top single was for dsd. When she stays (eow and Tuesdays) me and dh sleep on the sofa bed downstairs.

However, my room is now very much dsds room. Her posters are up, her rug down, her furniture. Recently she decided she doesn't want to sleep on her single bunk anymore, and now sleeps in my bed when she stays. Now she's older, she spends a lot of time lounging up there with her tablet. I feel like no where is mine anymore. Plus, my house looks like a dormitory!

Aibu to want her to at least stay in her own bed? I'm not a wicked sm, far from it I adore my dsc but the children have taken over this whole house!

WTF?! No way, that’s not on. It’s more than generous that you’ve given up the biggest room to accommodate the kids, then to give up your own room when DSD stays is more than most would do - why can’t she sleep on the sofa instead? Her sleeping in your bed is taking the piss. You need your DP to get on board with some boundaries here - she doesn’t need to put posters up in your room, she shouldn’t be lounging up there, or if she does, it should be on her own bed.

Ideally you clearly need a bigger house for all those DCs, but in the meantime it’s not unreasonable for you to have your own frigging bed!

You need some adult space! Options:Two bunk beds in large room, 1for girls 1for boys and folding screen along half they decorate with pics either side to delineate their 'own' space? Or, would the little ones be ok 'camping' on sofa bed together ? I don't see how you could 'sell' the sofa bed to her tbh.