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Original poster

Am I disgusting or is DH a tit?

60 replies

HappenedForAReisling · 27/08/2018 06:56

I think DH is a tit. But just in case I'm wrong....

I cooked a Sunday roast including cauliflower cheese. All the cauli was eaten but there was some cheese sauce with a few browned bits left around the dish.

While cleaning up I scooped up some of the sauce along with the browned bits with the serving spoon and ate them. Everything then went in the dishwasher.

DH later said that he thought DD's boyfriend was "disgusted" by me eating the cheese sauce.

Surely this is a normal thing to do and he'a being a dick?

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NotTakenUsername · 27/08/2018 07:28

Has she brought many boyfriends home in the past? Maybe he is uneasy with the new situation and ‘on his best behaviour’, and expected you to do the same?

Original poster
HappenedForAReisling · 27/08/2018 07:28

Sunflowerr guest so hence on best behaviour :D
Maybe, but it was a spoon that had been used and was about to go in the dishwasher so I can't see what all the fuss was about.

brokenharbour, you may be right.

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auntethel · 27/08/2018 07:33

Same here, impressed you used the serving spoon and not your finger. It's a put down, has he ever done this before? My ex used to do this in lots of little ways. Hence he's the ex.

grumiosmum · 27/08/2018 07:34

tit.

MaryShelley1818 · 27/08/2018 07:36

YANBU He’s a tit!!
Nothing wrong with what you did at all and I’d be upset if DP said that to me as it’s just not a very nice thing to say to someone.

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HappenedForAReisling · 27/08/2018 07:42

If my partner said this to me I’d think it was code for “ I’m unhappy with things and I want to take it out on you “

Could well be, but that's not what I'm here for. This isn't DD's first boyfriend and he's never had an issue before.

TBH the quote I've copied up top is probably spot on. Not the way to go about it though, DH....

Do we agree he's a tit?

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Pinkunicorndog · 27/08/2018 07:45

To be fair, I know I look disgusting shoving a massive serving spoon in my mouth.

tootstastic · 27/08/2018 07:46

YANBU....he's a total tit and rather spiteful. He clearly just wanted a dig at you for a totally unrelated reason.

Saffy60 · 27/08/2018 07:49

Yes - those are the best bits, I reckon he wanted them and yes he was being a tit....anyway, it saves on the cleaning!

Original poster
HappenedForAReisling · 27/08/2018 07:50

This was me behind his back.

Am I disgusting or is DH a tit?
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maamalady · 27/08/2018 07:51

Cauliflower cheese has no place in a roast dinner. YABU!

Oblomov18 · 27/08/2018 07:51

Eh? HmmThought this was normal, standard protocol.

MrsCrabbyTree · 27/08/2018 07:52

I've figured it out. Your DH wants you to believe it's disgusting, so from now on, you leave all those little bits of deliciousness for him to sneakily devour when you are not looking. Don't let the bastard get away with it. Grin

Original poster
HappenedForAReisling · 27/08/2018 07:52

Wash your mouth out evilgiraffe!

My GIF didn't work :(

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Original poster
HappenedForAReisling · 27/08/2018 07:53

OH yes it did :D

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Ansumpasty · 27/08/2018 07:54

It’s the best bit. I probably wouldn’t do it in front of a new guest (but I’d wait until he was in the other room and do it then) Wink

I’ve been known to rub my finger in the salty grease after grilling bacon and lick it. I’m grosser Grin

Auntpetunia2015 · 27/08/2018 07:54

He’s pushed off because he wanted them. Nothing about it being disgusting

Auntpetunia2015 · 27/08/2018 07:54

Pissed...not pushed!

mrcharlie · 27/08/2018 07:57

Sounds like DH was putting on a show or Aires & Graces for the guest. Better they see the real you than some fake. I don't put on a show, if people don't like...tough
I'm a bugger for doing the same, not greedy, just brought up to not chuck food. If there was a lot left we usually save in the fridge but if I'm still peckish and got the washing job, I'll treat myself!!
Oh' I'd love some cauliflower cheese now...yum yum.

tillytrotter1 · 27/08/2018 07:58

Just one correction, you need a really sharp knife to prise off the very brown bits, as with lasagne, or you're missing some!

Timeisslippingaway · 27/08/2018 08:00

The thought of that giving me the boke but only because it is cheese sauce I clear loads of leftovers but generally in the kitchen and generally wouldn't do it in front of company. Maybe that's just me.

evilgiraffe
I have also never heard of cauliflower cheese with a roast, what about the gravy.

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HappenedForAReisling · 27/08/2018 08:03

There was gravy, lots of it. I'm not in the UK so I believe I can get away with minor Sunday roast transgressions.

I still think he's a tit though :D

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thegreylady · 27/08/2018 08:05

I reckon he was disgusted because he had his eye on those leftovers for himself.

ZeroFuchsiasGiven · 27/08/2018 08:08

I'm more bothered by the person who thinks you might have got food poisoning from eating the brown bits which have been thoroughly cooked and might have been out of the oven for an hour or so by the time you were (rightly) enjoying the last fragments from the dish. How on earth do people think the human race survived to the present era? We didn't have refrigeration until under a century ago. Lots of British people didn't have one till the 1950s. Food hygiene is important but so is common sense. No wonder we have such a lot of food waste. People seem to have no clue about how long things can be kept, what's safe, what's not safe.

Mrsmadevans · 27/08/2018 08:14

'Sounds like he wanted to scrape the dish himself..'
Definitely