That Dh is planning a trip away

[FuckedRightOff]

to Las Vegas with his friends behind my back.

I discovered this by accident when I was forwarding some photos he took on his phone to my phone when I spotted the 'Vegas' group, which had been archived, presumably so I wouldn't see it! I felt hurt that he has not discussed it with me first as we will have a newborn at the time they plan to go. And also as his friends were saying to book it without telling me, it left a nasty taste in my mouth.

DH has several holidays a year and has been away with friends before and I have never stood in his way, but I felt upset by this trip being planned behind my back.

What would you do if it was your DH?

Unless -
You've got loads of disposable income so wouldn't miss the cash
You also get to go on lots of holidays
He has loads of holiday so you'll also get lots of help with the baby and be able to go on lots of family trips
You know you will cope fantastically with the baby and will have lots of help

I would be livid. To the point of reconsidering the whole relationship. It's not just the holiday it's the sneakiness and planning to leave you at at time you will be really really vulnerable. What if there is a problem with the baby and it's in hospital still? What if you have and section or there are other complications and need extra help? Either he is completely naive or just doesn't give a shit. Given he's hidden it from you I guess he knows it's not on so it does sound like he's being a shit. Sorry OP

I'd be livid. To answer your question, this kind of behaviour would have me contacting a solicitor.

I would ask him why the fuck he is keeping secrets from me. Then I'd ask him why the fuck he allowed his friends to speak disrespectfully of me.

^^ What Basic said.

Trips away are fine as long as they are agreed and the family finances can stand it.

This behaviour isn’t fine.

@FuckedRightOff - are you perhaps a bit irked because you know your husband's friends have a point?

I'd say
'When I was forwarding photos I found your LV message group hidden'

Then see what he says

@springsnow, but their point is that probably his wife would like him to be around for her and their newborn and not on a lads holiday in Vegas; they all know it is out of order, hence the secrecy.

At no point has OP suggested she would stamp her feet about the trip, the point here is that the selfish prick hasn't got enough respect for his wife to even discuss it with her.

What point Snow?

I’d be telling him by all means go on the trip. Just don’t expect me to still be here when you get back. I hate liars with a passion and would not stand for this at all. For me this would be a total deal breaker.

I hope he'snot planning to use his paternal leave to take this holiday?

That was my first thought too. Get a holiday without eating into his actual annual leave. Cheeky fucker.