To worry......

[finethen]

that I don't think my sons partner likes my husband? She just seems really off around him. They're both quite opinionated people and I think they just rub each other up the wrong way. They are civil but I always feel like there's an atmosphere in the room
when they're together and I then feel
I have to go over the top and make sure the conversation flows and they don't go to logger heads - which hasn't happened yet. I get really worked up about this as I just want everyone to get on and be happy - the worrying is really getting me down though. I know this is going to sound pathetic but as an example she likes most of my
social media but rarely likes his and this just adds to my anxiety about the whole situation. My son is my world (he's 27) and therefore getting on between the 4 of us is very important to me. AIBU?

Get a grip

They might not “gel” and that’s fine. Not everyone can get on with everyone.

Sometimes people get on, sometimes they don’t.

As long as you and your husband are polite and civil to your son and his partner when you see them it’s fine if you’re not all best friends. Maybe they just don’t click. That’s okay.

You’re very upset about this and you don’t need to be. You don’t mention your son being concerned so he’s probably alright with things as they are.

Some people just don't like each other, nothing wrong with that as long as they can remain pleasant towards each other.

And yes worrying about likes on social media does sound pathetic

I really think you are overthinking this. Does it matter if they don’t like each other? As long as they can manage to be civil I reckon that’s enough.

Is he your son’s father? Does he like him?

Anne my son seems absolutely fine and doesn't seem concerned.

Crazy no not his dad but they get on well. They didn't in previous years when he lived with us but that's all in the past and it's all good now with them thankfully

You are way too old to be fretting about 'likes' on social media.

I ask because there is sometimes some influence from somewhere. If your son had trouble then his partner may take sides.

YABU

It’s totally normal that not everyone gets on with everyone else. As long as they are polite to each other it’s fine.

I would suggest you need more things and people in your life if your world revolves so much around your adult son and you’re actually obsessing over someone else’s likes on social media!

If your son’s happy then I wouldn’t worry about it OP.

You might be unintentionally projecting your anxiety about what you think is a bad dynamic onto the situation when it’s actually just civil rather than overly close.

Focus on what your son loves about her and be open and friendly while respecting they have their own lives.

Why are you even noticing what she 'likes' on Facebook?

You can't make everyone like everyone. That's just life.

Thank you for your comments - I needed this. I can't quite put my finger on why I'm so fixated with this - reading your replies I realise I'm being OTT. I need to try and be 'normal' with it all - genuinely finding it a struggle.

Re the social media, she may be seeing your posts and not his. Not that she's hidden him, just stupid algorithms.