To think my partner spends too much time on his phone

[FunkeyMonkey]

All the fricking time he is on his phone. He starts the day on his phone and finishes it as well. Drives me nuts. Plus checking social media all the time and watching videos. I'd say today he spent at least solid 6 hours on his phone. When I mention to him he snaps back at me saying I do the same. The truth will is I like using my phone but I would much prefer spending time with him. This makes me feel so unhappy and every time I try to talk to him he shuts me down or make it sound like I'm a needy, naggy girlfriend

Rather than nag about the phone can you just suggest things to do eg a film to watch, then if he's on his phone just pause it or say 'oh if you're not watching this I'll turn it off', I did this a bit with DH and he soon got the message. I was also direct and said I find it rude when we're doing things together and you're paying more attention to your phone than what we're doing or what I'm saying, if it's not a problem I'll check Mumsnet next time we're having sex. He doesn't do it anymore.

Same with my dh. He shuts down all the apps when he hears me approaching.. It's so fucking lame as I can hear his phone swooshing and then the click of his phone case closing. Ill sometimes wake up to him on the phone in bed. It's pathetic and annoys me. So I feel your pain. But I just do it back to him now. I'm on my phone now when I'm supposed to be watching jumanji with him.

I have tried all of that @FASH84 e.g. Pausing the tv and suggested things to do

In the same boat. And likewise he accuses me of doing the same, but I was never really a 'phone person' before and now I'm always killing time waiting for him. He ALWAYS tries to justify it saying he's doing something important. He's a musician and does a lot of promotion by social media, but still, I don't work in OUR time.

Now, I don't have a smart phone - but spend time on here instead.

Is it that you do actually have other things to do, or just that he fills in the blank space with using the phone.

I can't abide any reality tv, so will always be online when the others are watching it.

My tolerance for most tv has actually fallen a lot recently - there is not much that holds my attention.

Can you not agree to turn them off when your together. My ex used to say this to me so i'd make a point to leave it in the other room watch tv etc in peace. It did improve our time together but then when he wasn't around id spend hours on it.