I hate Tinder

[Rainyoubastard]

So after over a year of being single I joined Tinder. So far I have had:

Do you prefer thongs or briefs;
Are you up for an orgy;
What’s your favourite sex position;
Shall I come and sit on your face.

Then there’s the matches who just don’t reply.

Aibu to just stay single for the rest of my life because clearly all the normal men in their 30s have been claimed?

They can’t all be insane. Perhaps the normal ones are on ‘proper’ dating sites or are busy this weekend?

I did internet dating 15 years ago and I estimate that 50% of the men were nutters/pervs whilst the remainder were relatively normal. Stick with it. I bet that the eejits look for the women who are new to the site, in order to bombard them with the sort of messages you have received.

BTW don’t you want to reply to the knickers question with a photo of some massive flesh coloured granny pants? Do it!

I honestly thought tinder was mainly just for hook ups

There are always expeptions to the rules, but If you want a shag Tinder is your place.
If you want to grow old and grey together not so much

I was encouraged by a friend to try it again after a very long time and the first guy I chatted to asked me not to message him as he'd just eaten and was horny. WTAF. I did wonder if he had a prostate problem. It all got a bit weird and I've turned it off. It actually seriously depressed me. Someone at work was talking about how easy it would be to use and have random hookups, thing is they are married and it's not their reality.

I know exactly what you mean. I'm thinking of joining Bumble, which is apparently better – I'm hopeful that the rules (women make first contact, if you're looking for men) will mean less of this crap?

Bumble isn't much better. A lot of same men

OP Just think of them as tightwads too cheap to pay for sex chatlines or webcam.

Tinder is not for finding love Op.

A friend of mine tried all the free apps and sites for months, she finally had success with Match.com. I really do think if they are willing to pay for the service they are more interested in finding something serious

I actually met my partner on Tinder we’ve been together a year. I wasn’t actually on the app very long, and didn’t get a single pervy message - I think I’m just extremely lucky though! My policy of only swiping right on guys who had taken the time to write an interesting bio may have helped too.

So don’t use an app you don’t like. Bit dramatic thinking tinder is where all the decent blokes are awaiting your swipe.

Isn't Tinder just a shagging site, not a proper dating one?

And if a bloke sits on your face wouldn't you get a facefull of hairy ringpiece?

I alway though Tinder was known for casual ( sexy time) hook ups, not meeting 'partners'.

I think it might be the guys you are matching with. I've just had an amazing relatiinship from Tinder and am on my way back from a date with a lovely normal guy. Be very picky and only swipe right on proper profiles.

Thanks for the heads up, LesLavandes

I met my DP inn tinder!

Been together 4 years, engaged and have a baby due in a matter of weeks!

I guess reading these comments I got lucky!

I did it all wrong. I went on Tinder for a hook up and got a husband.

Personally if I were looking for a serious committed relationship, the last place I would look are the hook up sites such as Tinder, Grindr, POF etc.

I hate Tinder too, but all of the free ones are as bad as each other frankly. I was on POF not long ago and kept getting messages from this guy who hadn't bothered to fill out his profile or add a photo, so I wasn't replying. Then I got one saying "I saw u outside (local shop) an hour ago". I had been there at about that time and could vaguely remember seeing a guy staring at me as if he was trying to place me. I deleted my profile altogether after that!

I never had any good online dating experiences but I think the ones you have to pay for are probably a better bet. It depends where you live though - some sites have barely anyone on them outside of London so it's really not worth shelling out.

What do you expect with Tinder? It’s basically Grinder for heterosexuals. Try Match Affinity or Guardian Soulmates.

I met my OH on tinder. Been together 2 years he was my only tinder date.

I met my now husband in tinder so I can't complain. I went on loads of dates when I was using it, some awful and some fun! I took it all with a pinch of salt (including the horny messages which I just rolled my eyes at and ignored). Yes, a lot of people use it for hook ups, but not me or my husband, or any of the many men I went on dates with. Just embrace it and see it as a fun way to get out and about and meet new people, and see what happens!

@Bambamber plenty of people have had long term relationships & got married from it, it's not just for hookups

Tinder's for hook ups, if it's a relationship you're after then look elsewhere.

Yes you might find the odd gem in there, but mostly they are hook up sites and I would not go anywhere near them personally,