Dh and DS almost daily will drop a couple on the floor at breakfast ......and not pick them up and put them in the bin unless I am giving them severe stink eye or I ask them to. This can also start an argument with dh as "I'm over reacting."
I have MS and mobility issues so I'm not able to contribute as I'd like to the running of the house. I do as much as I can which is slowly getting to be more as I recover from a relapse.
Picking up food from the floor can be challenging for me but if I leave it, it just gets trampled on.
They both leave everything lying and don't clear up after themselves. Don't clear their dinner plates into the food bin, don't put dishes in the dishwasher unless specifically asked to etc. They never wipe the kitchen counter, so when I go to make my food I have to clear up their shit first. So I'm using my limited energy on doing stuff they should be doing themselves. Everyday they leave the cereal box open on the kitchen counter. If I leave it, it'll sit there until it's finished then be tossed into the recycling not flattened down.
I know these are all relatively minor things but the cumulative effect is me becoming enraged over a dropped cheerio. I hate having to ask EVERY TIME for them to do any household task. We have had multiple conversations about this and they nod their heads and say they'll do it....but it doesn't last longer than a day.
Dh does our laundry and DS does his own and has done for years which as least one positive.
How can I get them to function like adults and be responsible for their own mess?