We have been together 9 years, living together for 6.
He lived alone for 4 years before he moved in.
Here are a list of things that piss me off:
He makes himself a coffee without asking if I’d like one, then acts pissed off that I ask
If he made me one and will leave his to make mine even though I’ve said it’s fine I will make my own.
On a Sunday he won’t think twice about making himself a full English, not asking me or the kids if we would like one. And he has usually used most of the ingredients so we can’t have the same.
He will use the last of the milk without thinking the kids will need milk for their morning cereal. Resulting in him stomping out to the shop for more.
He will clean the bathroom then take a shower but won’t hang up towels/ dry the mat.
He will put in a wash for something he wants clean, but won’t make it a full wash by putting any of our clothes in even if the hamper is over spilling.
He will replace loo rolls just before he uses the loo but won’t any other time.
He will go to the shops because he wants to eat something in particular but won’t buy top ups for stuff everyone needs. Or will by himself a chocolate bar with the shopping but won’t pick up a Treat for anyone else. Kids usually fight/moan so I have to go back out to get something for them.
This doesn’t happen all the time, he will do the reverse when I’ve just pointed out that he hasn’t thought about anyone else. But a few weeks/months later he’s back to the single behaviour again until I point it out.
His excuse is ‘I forgot’ or ‘you didn’t say you wanted anything’ ‘I didn’t know’
Most of the time I haven’t noticed until he’s done it. And he’s always annoyed when I mention it.
I’ve made half jokes about him missing his single life & serious talks about if he’s finding family life stressful. But he tells me not to be silly.
What can I do?