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Dp left me this morning. I've spent the day crying in bed in between feeds with dd6m

We were together 3 years. Engaged for the last year.

He told me he's just fell out of love and has for a while. He's gone to his mum's. I'm so upset I said I would contact him soon to sort out access to dd

We lived in apartment but it's in my name. I can continue fine without him in regards to money and childcare

Not an AIBU just post here for some traffic but if any nice ladies have some words of encouragement that things will get better I would be very appreciative

Absolutely heartbroken and don't have any friends I can turn to. I feel like my world's just been ripped from under me,

I'm so sorry, this sounds incredibly painful!! This will get better, slowly but surely you will start to feel better and one day you will look back and see that things in life happen for a reason. Feel free to rant/offload on here as much as you need to. Sending hugs and

You will be in shock, and feel very real grief, look after yourself.

It won’t be unplanned by him, don’t make plans at the moment, and don’t agree to anything

Just look after yourselves, and ask family to visit if you can, if only to make you cups of tea and wash dishes..
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What an absolute shit. Having a new baby tests every relationship and giving up on it six months in is unforgivable imo. I understand that people fall in and out of love but this is such a terrible time to make a decision. I have a 6 month old DD too and I can barely decide what I want for dinner let alone accurately assess the state of my marriage. He's a coward and a weakling OP. You deserve - and will find - better.

You will feel better. I promise you. It won't always be easy and it's not a linear recovery either-there will be peaks and troughs. There'll also be anger as well as sadness. Use it to get through the pain and get things sorted.

I'm so sorry this has happened to you and know the pain well. My ex left me with an 18 month old and four weeks away from giving birth to our second child. It was horrendous but honestly, 2.5 years down the road I can't imagine being with him. If he's able to do this to you then he's not someone you want as a partner, as hard as it is to see now when it's all fresh and raw.

Cry as much as you need, tell anyone you can and make it real and get support. Keep talking on here if need be, someone will be here, but real life is good too if possible. I agree, don't commit yourself to any arrangements just yet. Your baby is still very young, he has a right to see her but in short bursts is what's thought best at that age. Legal advice and perhaps CAB is also a good start-get some ducks in a row so you can be prepared if he starts to make unreasonable demands.

But for now, sleep when you can (I used to put something on the tv and doze to it when I found sleep difficult, bizarrely 24 hours in a&e was the most effective!) Try and eat but if it's difficult to manage go for smoothies and soups, fruit juices etc. And again, any help you can call in, take it.

It's awful and shitty. The only way to get through it is to take it one day, hour, minute at a time but you will be ok one day

It's all very raw at the moment and you are probably in a state of total shock.
Try to remember that you won't always feel like this, things will get better, though it's hard to visualise this now.
If you're not right for each other, it's better that you part now than later on, maybe with another couple of children to consider.
One day in the future, you will realise that this was for the best. You will meet someone who adores you and is in your corner, it's just a matter of time.
At least you have learned the kind of partner you don't want.

If nothing else, you are blessed with a beautiful DD in your life.
You can always ring the Samaritans if things get too much for you to bear.
I am sending you love and courage.

I could cry. I'm a man and I should not do crying but I feel so sad for you all. A 6-month old is adorable and should be totally worshipped by both parents.

I've no real suggestion apart from look after you lovely daughter and remember that you are the one that matters to her.

Aw OP. Sending you lots of love. Do you have family you can talk to about your partner leaving?
I don’t have much advice as never been in this situation but I’m so sorry, please try and focus on yourself and your baby right now. As hard as it will be and you will be feeling emotionally overwhelmed, just try to take each day as it comes.

Ah OP I'm in virtually the same situation as you except my (now ex) DP left 1 week ago. We were engaged and have a 6 month old.

I felt like my world was ending when he left. Like I couldn't breathe. I couldn't see any future or point. It hurt so so so so much.

This past week I've cried and talked the ears off my parents. I've rearranged the house, cleaned, batch cooked, caught up with friends. And you know what, today feels better. I actually don't miss him now. I think I hate him actually. I'd never get back with him. 1 week ago I wanted to throw myself round his ankles to stop him leaving.

What I'm trying to say is - it does get easier and quicker than you might think. I don't don't doubt I'm going to have many more down periods but I don't think it's going to get as bad as those first few days again.

The reality is, you and I are both so much better off without them. As are our babies!

If you ever want to chat, I'm here!

for you OP.

My heart really goes out to you. No advice, but anyone willing to abandon you like this is someone you’re better off without. Your post says you haven’t got friends to turn to? Get to some baby play groups etc and try to meet people- if you’re local to East Yorkshire then drop me a PM

Sorry you've found yourself in a place you never wanted to be. But as other people have said, down the line you'll realise it's a better place for you and dd.

The main thing I wanted to say is that it's not just up to you to arrange access with your dd. He decided to leave, the onus is just as much on him to contact you to make arrangements. He may have bailed out on you, he needs to take responsibility for his child.