Help! I have to sleep with my husband!

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I don't mean the sex, as I've been visiting him in the spare room for that, I mean the actual sleeping

We have a baby and from day 1 DH has slept in spare room as I didn't see a need for us both to be up all night every night. DD has been a terrible little sleeper but has gradually improved and the time has come when DH and I really should share a bed again, at least at weekends. DD is still in my our bedroom for now

The thing is, I can't sleep next to DH without earplugs; he's not a snorer but does breathe heavily (as most of us do when asleep!) and I just can't sleep! I'm also not comfortable with earplugs in case DD stirs, and I can't trust DH to wake me if he's had a few beers

Help! This is sort of lighthearted, I know IABU and I will have to just get over it and on with it

Same issue and have worn earplugs throughout (3 dc now) - you’ll still here the baby. Almost annoyingly so for me, I can pretty much hear my kids fart at night - the earplugs block out the very loud and annoying snoring from DH (and all three kids who are similarly loud snorers!) but the slightest whimper in their sleep I hear them.

However ...if on occasion you really wish you hadn’t heard the little one crying and it’s the umpteenth time or you just need a decent night for once, wearing earplugs for DH snoring is the perfect excuse to make him take a turn because you just didn’t hear through them on that occasion. Of course I would never do such a thing so am in no way condoning any deceit of this nature

its probably time me and dh shared a bed too...………...ds is 14

just wait until they are having sleep overs and ds tells them the 3rd room is his dads bedroom and their friends ask why you sleep in separate rooms

I remember as a child feeling sorry for my gran as her and grandpa didn't share a room which must of meant they didn't like each other anymore but had to stay together because they were married (catholic side of the family), now I understand!!

DH and I have had separate rooms as soon as enough DCs had buggered off to University we could, and I think it saved our marriage - I was on my knees with exhaustion and bitter resentment due to the relentless snoring. But yes, it does feel a bit awkward when the younger DCs have friends over or we have guests - it's so not the done thing. Most people think it's weird or a sign that we secretly hate each other.

You could always go for the nuclear option - heavy duty earplugs and a vibrating/flashing baby monitor.

I'm past caring what our guests or teenager's friends think about our bedroom arrangements ....... I can't imagine anyone is really that interested.

@maggienolia sorry to hear of your loss

How old is the baby? We live on a busy road so have traffic as well as husband noise. Baby is in own room, so I put ear plugs in to cut out all the background noise but turn up the monitor really loud

We've had separate bedrooms since toddler DD was born, and now I'm heavily pregnant with DC2 it's not been worth going back, it's tough enough for me to manoeuvre from one side to another in a bed by myself!
Agree with PPs on the earplugs... we alternate who's on DD duty overnight as she wakes at 6.30 (in her own room). I have earplugs and white noise and door closed on his nights and I still wake up to her before he does!

Try earplugs, I found they didn't block out baby's noise.