Anxiety over DS leaving for uni.

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My ds did really well in A Level exams, he worked hard, earned great grades and gained a place at his first choice of university and now getting ready to set off at the end of sept. All good..but..I am in absolute knots over it. Obviously, I am keeping it to myself, I am so happy for him and beyond proud but feel like I am going bonkers quietly, constantly thinking about trying not to breakdown when we take him up and leave him. It's so ridiculous, I know it's not normal and I should get a grip. Would love to hear how others have coped when first child 'flees the nest' ? Aaaaarrrgghhh !

All the love to you. Be proud of your boy and let all the feelings run. They are normal and very real. When my eldest left for uni six years ago I cried all the way home and then found myself sobbing in his room for the next few weeks. Now I get to appreciate him when he comes home to visit and see the awesome young man he's become. With the second one it was different, just as heart wrenching but I was more prepared. All you're feeling is completely normal, it's a time of change and you will both be adapting to the new order. Just be kind to yourself and take it slowly.

I made my son's bed up yesterday and I agree, why wouldn't I. Of course he could do it himself, but as they are away so much it is simply an act of motherly love, it is the little things...I remember when I used to go home to see my mum she used to make me a meal and what a treat that was instead of cooking for myself and also she would tuck me in. It is the little things we remember.

My DS graduated in July after three years at uni and I still remember the day me and his DF took him up to uni an hour away. I will admit I did cry on the way home .But OP you have done a fantastic job of raising your DS who is now ready to spread his wings and take the next step in life .Yes,you will worry and want to ring them everyday to check they are ok but it will pass when you realise they are fine .My DS has now got a job and a house in the City he went to uni in and has a brillant set new friends he made at uni as well as his orginal frienda he still keeps in touch with .You don't lose the bond OP .We still go up with his DS's and he knows if he needs us we are only at the end of the phone. You do get though it OP and you will be there on graduation day rightly proud of your DS .