To not want to share a bed with DH?

[Housecat09]

I can no longer sleep in a shared bed. I am pregnant and I sleep terribly when pregnant. DH sleeps in a way that gets air into the bed and the cold air on my back wakes me up. The only time I can actually sleep is when I have the bed to myself.

I’m miserable due to not getting any sleep. Last night I woke up 15 times between 2 and 5, and I feel awful.

DH was offended when I told him he should sleep on a spare bed until I have given birth, and took it as a personal slight.

AIBU to want seperate beds until then? If I am what can I do?

I don’t mind using the spare bed. He’s not really a fan of anyone having it. I need to try and convince him it’s not a rejection, because it isn’t, it’s just about the practicalities of us both getting sleep.

We have a regular double but I would love a king or super king!

We still have our marital bed where we both go to in the evening to chat or what ever and it’s still our bedroom but just as we are falling asleep I go through to another room. I have for years, I have terrible insomnia and I’m a very light, wriggly sleeper and I need an audiobook to get to sleep. My husband is a snorer and he cannot cope on less that 8 hours. I know quite a few couples who sleep separately, especially in child rearing days when you need to grab any sleep you can get. The Queen and Prince Phillip have completely separate bedrooms!

Your husband is putting his fragile ego before your sleep requirements. I bet he won’t have any qualms about moving to the spare bed when he’s getting woken up every few hours by a newborn.

We have a normal queen size (I think it's 150 x 200) and I bought a super king duvet (200 x 200). Makes all the difference. No more fighting over the duvet, and it's one of those that has different togs on each side.

But at the same time, sleep is so important, and it's just for a short while. The problem starts when the baby is here and it's easier for you to cosleep so your DH stays in the spare room and before you know it years have gone by.

Separate duvets have been a life changer here. We both have doubles and it is so much nicer. No fighting over duvet or then taking it off and you getting cold etc.

We have slept separately during the entirety of my third pregnancy. We get on well etc, but most importantly we both sleep.

We sleep separately otherwise we can't sleep well. I'm noteven pregnant, we're just happier that way. DH gives me a cuddle when I go to bed so there is an opportunity to seduce each other if wanted.

FFS YANBU!

You’re pregnant and need sleep. Tell him to get over being rejected and offended and GTFOH or you won’t be responsible for your actions.

I'm pregnant and feel the same but we don't have a spare room or bed

Sofa is too small might use this as a case of needing a new one

Me and DH have slept in separate rooms for the last 3 years it's the best thing we've ever done! He tosses and turns all night and likes to watch tv while he falls asleep whereas I sleep like a log and need peace and quite to sleep!
Now we have 4 month old DS it makes even more sense, he gets sleep during the week and I get my weekends as DS is moved into the different rooms to sleep!
We're quite young (early 30's) and are very open about the fact we sleep apart, some of our friends are a bit jealous. Life's too short for crap sleep and your sleep will be even more precious when baby arrives.
Failing that separate duvets and a bigger bed if possible will help!