About not getting the blocking people thing?

[Newbi]

So I should preface this with I have just been blocked by my ex on WhatsApp. The background is long but was an amicable but painful split. And I thought we were still ‘friends’ so it’s come out of the blue (no stalking/harassment/Dv etc) and it hurts. A lot. Previously i have blocked one of my exes so I do get that sometimes it’s justified. But that was ages after we’d split up and he kept messaging me even though I’d asked him not to. Apart from that- who have you blocked, on what (ie do you automatically block people on everything? Or is it a staged thing?) and why please? I don’t get how we went from wanting to be friends even if it hurt to him blocking me?

I would block anyone I had broken up with as I find it easier to get over them by going NC. Not sure why thats difficult to understand?

Maybe he's met someone else and didn't want you to know?

Ive blocked my sister in Instagram. We are currently nc, but I still have her on Facebook should we need to contact each other regarding family situations and also because I rarely post on their. I post about places I’ve been for dinner etc on Instagram and use it to connect with people who share my interests, so didn’t want to stop using it or have to set my account to private. But I could see she was regularly checking my Instagram stories, despite not following me (so she’d have to be searching for me). Part of our falling out stems from her jealousy/judgement of the life she thinks I have based on what I choose to share on Instagram (a highlights reel obviously!) so I didn’t feel it was productive/healthy for her to continue to see my posts. Also, if I’m honest, I’ve needed this break from our frankly toxic relationship, and constantly seeing her name pop up in my ‘people who’ve watched’ section was feeling intrusive.

Ex means he is an ex. Why do you give a shit that he blocked you?

I blocked my ex as he was not a nice person and it was quite triggering.

My other ex I have on social media and others I've had short liaisons with are on my FB too.

I think if it was a very one sided breakup it would make sense to block. Also due to abusive behaviour. Even just because you wanted to or found it too hard to see their name pop up.

Maybe so to both those options! It’s just that he was the one pushing for friends and I was saying I still want to be friends but I think it’s too soon and I don’t want to go backwards and forwards.

In that case OP maybe he thought it was too hard for you and was going NC so you had some time?

I think he is trying to move on and you need to respect that.

Sorry x posted. Yes I know I shouldn’t care but we split up because we wanted different things from life. So it was just a shock. I can’t decide whether I want you to be right or not @notanothernoughtiestune but that’s pretty much the best outcome!

And just for clarity I haven’t tried to contact him- his picture has disappeared so I’ve assumed that’s the case and as much as it is shit; he’s probably right re: the nc/moving on- I don’t know how hard it is for him but it’s hard for me!

Sounds like he needs to cut contact to move on. Some people think they're cool with the friendship thing, but find out they're really not. Let him go & don't take it personally. He may have had stronger feelings for you than either of you realized. Good luck xx

Blocked my ex after disastrous reunion and embarrassing drunken one night stand .
Blocked my cousins coz going nc to be honest we no longer have anything in common also one is constantly showing off look what I ve got. Boring.
I think it's hard to stay friends with an ex and maybe people just want to move on.

I blocked my ex on FB and on my phone. He’d messed me around for 6 months, picking me up and dropping me, telling me he’d never get married but bringing up proposing, acting like he loved me then another girl he met online and changing his mind back and forth. We worked together after 3 months after I finally saw the light and we had to see each other everyday. After he moved back home and left, I kept seeing his “green light” on FB and sometimes I’d feel that pang of wanting him to message me. I’d also think he might text or call me and to be honest he probably would have, he loved playing games and knowing he could still have me if he wanted me. In the end, the only way I knew how to get the closure I needed was to take control of the situation and ensure he could never contact me again. It worked and I’d do it again if I had to.

I also blocked an abusive NPD/alcoholic family member. I’d imagine that doesn’t need much explanation!

Blocking is the sensible thing to do when no good can come from communication but it CAN cause you negative feelings. Why wouldn't you protect yourself from that?

I wish there was a block function on MN to hide posts from certain usernames. There's one who ruins every thread she's on because she's like a dog with a bone and will never let a point go.

I’ve blocked people when it’s hurt too much to stay in contact, it’s a self protective thing although unless there’s nastiness I have said “I can’t keep talking to you and I’m going to block you” type thing

I blocked every one of my relatives who contacted me out of th blue within minutes of finding out that my supposedly wealthy mother had died...... Amazing how unsubtle and divisive that lot were. It was rather fun, actually. I would say to my DH, “Oh look! A message from Uncle Redneck who says that he’s always hated my brother.... aaaaaaaand BLOCK!”