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Altercation at the pool

92 replies

mamangelo · 24/08/2018 21:01

First time poster. Really need some views on an experience at the gym today as going back and forth in my mind as to whether I was wrong or not.

I took my two small boys (aged two and three, almost four) swimming today. We had a lovely time, they were both well behaved and not to noisy. I was negotiating them out of the pool to the changing room when my youngest boy knocked a sign by one of the swimming lanes (one stating it was the slow lane) it toppled over and I couldn’t catch it before it fell into the water. I apologised to the lifeguard who was very smiley and all ‘no problems’ about it. A nice man in the pool lane lent down and picked up the sign. At this point a lady swimming towards us exclaimed her glasses were on the sign and were broken. The nice man dunked down and picked up her glasses and declared all was well with them. She took them from him and began looking in earnest for a fault. The man in the pool said something along the lines of ‘come on!’ and I started walking away with my children (bearing in mind their ages i wanted to herd them away from the swimming pool) I could also tell this lady was just that type. You know, spoiling for a fight. Anyway the long and the short is she declared the glasses to be ‘loose’ and although I pointed out she could tighten them very easily herself with a small screwdriver she declared she didn’t have one. I walked away. I just felt she wanted money out of me/ an argument and I was not A. In a position to discuss it given I had my two children in a swimming pool and needed to solely focus on them and B. I don’t want to engage with negative/ poisonous people like that.

So what do people think. Was i being unreasonable to walk away?

OP posts:
tempester28 · 24/08/2018 22:20

I wouldn't have thought that glasses falling into water would have done any damage?

BitOfFun · 24/08/2018 22:21

There's always one Hmm

OP, YANBU.

SchadenfreudePersonified · 24/08/2018 22:22

I wear prescription goggles to swim, they are much cheaper than I thought they’d be

I didn't know you could get these - will any optician make them, or do you need to go somewhere "specialist"?

Smurfy23 · 24/08/2018 22:23

She was wrong to leave them there.

If they were loose she could bring them into the opticians and they usually tighten them up there and then. I've done this several thousand times with my glasses over the years Smile

PavlovaFaith · 24/08/2018 22:24

YANBU

LostMarblesAgain · 24/08/2018 22:25

She was responsible for keeping her property safe. You were right to walk away.

EduCated · 24/08/2018 22:25

@SchadenfreudePersonified What’s your prescription? I got some off Amazon for about a tenner a few weeks back and they are life-changing Grin Well, maybe not, but they are good! Think they went down to -8.00, although the same in both eyes. I’m only 0.25 different between my eyes so just went with the stronger one and they’re fine.

RedHelenB · 24/08/2018 22:26

YABU to say you had to solely concentrate on your 2 children but accidents happen and it wasn't the most sensible place for her to leave her glasses.

edinburghlass1991 · 24/08/2018 22:26

Look at my name as I think I know the pool/ women if so she’s the type to complain about flip flops by the pool getting wet

ToeToToe · 24/08/2018 22:28

Yanbu at all. She was being ridiculous.

SchadenfreudePersonified · 24/08/2018 22:30

Educated - thanks, I'll have a look, but I have a marked astigmatism, so may not be able to get any online. Having said that, I don't need 20:20 vision to flounder from one end of the pool to another, so they might be "good enough".

Cheers!

EduCated · 24/08/2018 22:34

I have medium-ish astigmatism but figured it would be ok for the pool - I found them to be alright, like you say, doesn’t need to be perect, especially at that price!

Whatsthisbear · 24/08/2018 22:36

@schadenfreudePersonified I bought online £12 for DC with strong prescription (+7.50) Can’t for the life of me remember exact company but a quick google of prescription swimming goggles brings up plenty of options. He does have astigmatism but most reasonable prices only deal with sphere but compensations can be made and he sees fine in the pool without astigmatism corrected in goggles.

guessmyusername · 24/08/2018 22:42

SchadenfreudePersonified My dd got some last year from her optician and they cost £25. She has astigmatism too and prescription is different for each eye. She always complained about being as blind as a bat in the pool. We saw some online but I was a bit wary.

butlerswharf · 24/08/2018 22:42

You did the right thing.

SoupDragon · 24/08/2018 22:43

Actually it sounds like your kids broke her glasses and you're being a real dick about it.

No it doesn’t.

butlerswharf · 24/08/2018 22:43

I'd have probably chucked them back in the deep end.

Whatsthisbear · 24/08/2018 22:47

@mamangelo all our family wear glasses, I’m very blurry without but would never NOT put my glasses in a locker for safe keeping. She chose to stick them on the side of the pool- her problem. She just obviously wanted to let you know she was miffed. Knocking glasses off a sign into water would not make them loose. Glad you told her they could be tightened by herself but the fact she declared them ‘broken’ before they had even been brought out of the water speaks volumes. Don’t give it another thought

Nacreous · 24/08/2018 22:49

I have astigmatism and I couldn’t drive in my goggles but they work well enough for not bumping my head or into other people. I can even read the (not huge) clock if I squint.

www.amazon.co.uk/UTOBEST-Swimming-Goggles-Protection-Replaceable/dp/B074KDD3BS/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?psc=1&keywords=prescription+goggles&pi=AC_SX236_SY340_QL65&tag=mumsnetforum-21&ie=UTF8&qid=1535147317&sr=8-1-spons

I bought these - don’t touch the inside of the lenses though, the anti fog coating is extremely soft.

Tangywhisco · 24/08/2018 23:07

Oh, come on ppl do u not know that the sign is there for stupid like her to leave her glasses on, not to inform normal ppl that there r is a slow lane. 😂😂

Shenanagins · 24/08/2018 23:08

I am ridiculously precious over my glasses as they cost a lot of money so would never ever leave them in such a precarious place, especially when it could easily be knocked over by someone equally as blind as me!

That said, if I was that stupid, I would check them over carefully to figure out how much my stupidity would cost.

So I’m short yanbu plus a screw is easily tightened st the opticians.

SmilingButClueless · 24/08/2018 23:18

I have these goggles, as I need radically different prescriptions in each eye. www.prescription-swimming-goggles.co.uk/swimming-goggles/gator.html?

Wouldn’t like to drive or do computer work, but they work well enough for swimming / reading by the pool, even with relatively bad astigmatism

And they don’t break if they accidentally get knocked in the pool!

garethsouthgatesmrs · 24/08/2018 23:24

Prescription goggles are only £25!? I wear my glasses in the pool because I really am as blind as a bat and couldn't supervise my kids without them. Am gonna treat myself next month i bet astigmatisms cost more though

FlaviaAlbia · 25/08/2018 06:41

I have the same goggles as Smiling, I couldn't believe how cheap they were and they're great. Just wish I'd known about them years earlier, I always thought they'd cost an arm and a leg!

CaveMaman · 25/08/2018 06:53

She's being unreasonable, but thank you for posting... I've learned that prescription goggles are £25 in specsaver, I always imagined they'd be very expensive and out of my reach... Grin

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