Issues with friend

[Horrordoeurvres]

Okay so background first to set the scene.

Recently my youngest sisters Xbox broke, our dog got out of the kitchen and chewed it, my fault as I was supposed to be watching him but got caught up doing house work. She was gutted as she just got it for her 12th birthday, I bought her a new one but I've got two weeks till payday so it's left me a bit skint. No big deal as all my bills are paid anyway. Just means I don't have any "spare cash" this month. My friend knows this yet has been harping at my all week to go out for drinks tonight, I've told her no and explained why again but she's literally texted me all day complaining that I'm being really shit and obviously don't want to see her etc. She's now started messaging my boyfriend and other friends trying to convince them to get me to go out and to feel sorry for her because I'm saying no.

Am I being unreasonable here for not going? I see her almost every week so it's not as If I cancel on her a lot or hardly see her. I'm starting to feel a bit bad for saying no now but I literally cannot afford a random night out drinking for no reason? :( she's normally a really good friend but has a hard time accepting no means no sometimes.

She sound like a complete nutter. Get your boyfriend to text back: desperate much? Hopefully she'll be embarrassed into realising how odd and unappealing this behaviour is.

She's a selfish idiot. A really good friend would sympathise, ask if you fancied any company and offer to come round with a bottle of wine.

YANBU whatsoever. She'll have to learn that people say 'no' sometimes, for whatever reason.... Nice to be wanted, but unless she's willing to foot the bill all night, let her rage on.

She sounds manipulative and frankly bat shit, if she’s that desperate to see you she’ll have to cover both your drinks tonight.

Tell her she can come round yours with a bottle of wine but you haven’t got ANY cash to go out with

Why doesn't she offer to Pay?

Agree with PP's, she sounds nuts.

@thethoughtfox & @cariadlet he's not even met her yet, new relationship and she's just tracked him on Facebook, I've offered her to come round tonight as I have wine in the house but she's said no she wants to go out clubbing because we're "young and should be living not being losers"

I don't know why she acts like this sometimes it's upsetting

Absolute cow. Tell her you'll go if she's paying and if she's not she can piss off

She’s looked up your new boyfriend who she’s never met and declared you’re living like a loser because you’re not spending money you don’t have getting wankered with her?

Oh the absolute irony of calling you a loser!

@MissusGeneHunt @ClemDanfango @serbska @Missingstreetlife I'm quite a proud person so I'd never have anyone pay my way even if I'm skint Hahaa, I'd just chill in the house with some wine instead! I've actually offered that as an alternative as I have wine in the house but that's not good enough since it's not out to a club apparently

@YeTalkShiteHen love the username, fellow scot? Hahaa yeah he's coming round instead. We're going to just have a chill night watching movies. She's no longer replying to me but still harping at him, we were all supposed to go out in a few weeks so she could meet him but he's decided she's crazy and doesn't want to 😂

Thanks guys you've made me feel a bit better about not going out! I don't feel so bad now 😬

@Horrordoeurvres yeah fair play, I'd find it really really hard too. Sod it, don't even consider it if there's no half way house!!! We'll all pop round yours with wine instead!!!

Horrordoeurvres I am indeed

He sounds sensible! Tbh she sounds pretty awful, and nasty to boot. Looking up your new man is really really weird!

Maybe if she wasn’t so quick to insult her friends she wouldn’t be begging for people to come on nights out

Stay in with your man and drop this person she sounds very strange.

She sounds a bit sad and desperate! Hasn’t she got any other friends to go out with? Ignore the nutter op, and have a nice glass of wine with your feet up this evening

Mind you, she’d think I was an über loser because I don’t drink

She’s stalked your boyfriend and messaged him even though she doesn’t know him?
She’s not your mate she’s a fucking stalking weirdo, block her.

@MissusGeneHunt I would genuinely love a wine Mumsnet night 😂

@YeTalkShiteHen it's a night out to the Manikee in Falkirk as well, just Incase you're central Scotland and have experienced that horror before hahah. I'm not much of a drinker either, I can take it or leave it. I probably wouldn't have drunk that much tonight anyway but it's mainly taxis, pub before hand, paying entry to the club etc - all adds up!

@ClemDanfango yeah she did, we've been friends for almost 10 years so normally I can handle the dramatics as it always blows over but this times a bit too far

@FabulousTomatoes not any other friends really, If we go as a group it's mainly my friends from other circles and I invite her too but that's it! She doesn't really make the effort to make other friends I don't think

Oh fuck horror . Dinnae go tae the Maniqui! It’s a hellhole

@Figlessfig another Scot?? Hahaha tell me about it, last time I want a couple got chucked out for literally having sex against the bar. Haven't been back since. I'm more of a Cathouse gal

She sounds childish! That’s something a stroppy teenager would do, not a grown adult!!

You’ve made yourself clear and you’re sensible to live within your means. Also imagine if your financial situation was difficult on a longer basis, it would be so insensitive for a friend to keep on about it.

Ignore!