Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Partner/ex partner.

18 replies

Spiderbabe13 · 24/08/2018 17:51

Ok so this is my first post.my heads in tatters.met this guy 3 and a half years ago in the September,he was great company though he told a lie about his age on the first date.tbh I did see he was older than what he said however he said he was cleared to say his real age in case it was an issue for me.it wasn't an issue and we got on great.we were engaged on winter solstice and I met his kids and ex partner etc.he painted a picture of being wronged by her and her current partner (slept with each other behind his back) I was told so many things etc.we were meant to be married last August and I cancelled it as money needed to go elsewhere and besides the fact he ran out on me so many times.hes aggressive after drinking etc.i feel lied to and deceived no end.i know he's been good in other ways and he did move all the way up country from Hertfordshire.as time went on he has ousted me from going down there with him,he's bitched about me and slagged me off.im no longer welcome that.he walked out on last year's holiday and ended up back down south.this year we went away again for two weeks and he walked out again only a few days into the holiday and buggered off back down there and then sleeping in his car back in our village.hes offered to bring me home but now he's calling me a slag and a narcissist and saying how I've hurt him and betrayed him.hes demanding to know all details from my past.everypne I know agrees that nobody is privy to anyone's past,if you tell someone it's up to you.i have shared much with him and he throws it in my face yet all his sordid and vile past I've dealt with and seen it for what it is...past.im not sure why he's doing it but me and my daughter's came here with him and we now have to struggle home with all the cases etc.im so stressed and feel as though it's all my fault and to have him back I should share every single detail of what's happened before him.no idea what to do but my heads in tatters.

OP posts:
paintinmyhairAgain · 24/08/2018 17:55

ltb that's all that needs to happen, this person is a totally vile piece of shit. end of.

RayRayBidet · 24/08/2018 17:56

He sounds like an abuser. You should leave him. You are better off without him.
Good luck

TheHeartOfTafiti · 24/08/2018 18:00

Why would you want him back? His behaviour sounds grotesque, you’re well shot of him

Chickychoccyegg · 24/08/2018 18:04

leave, leave, leave!!!!! do not take him back, he sounds an absolutely awful person, and you deserve better, hope you manage home ok with the luggage, hope you're not bringing home anything of his xx

Feefeetrixabelle · 24/08/2018 18:04

When a guy like that walks out your life- lock the door so he can’t get back in.

Eliza9917 · 24/08/2018 18:05

Get out now before it gets worse.

Nomorechickens · 24/08/2018 18:07

He is no good. You have to stop thinking that it would be OK to be with him, because it wouldn't. You are better off without him.

AuntieStella · 24/08/2018 18:07

Why on earth would you want him back?

You don't have a good word to say about him, and this sounds like an opportunity for a fresh start

Singlenotsingle · 24/08/2018 18:09

What's in your past is history, and has no relevance to today. And it's private. You don't need to tell him anything. He's an idiot, and nowhere near to marrying anyone! He could ruin your life! Get rid!

NonJeNeRegretteRien · 24/08/2018 18:23

Him leaving is the best thing he could do for you. Sounds like a total waster..

Spiderbabe13 · 24/08/2018 18:27

Think my confidence has just been knocked down so badly.ive lost who I am and all my self worth.spent the last week on and off in tears.

OP posts:
Eliza9917 · 29/08/2018 14:57

How are you doing now OP? @Spiderbabe13

Spiderbabe13 · 29/08/2018 15:04

@Eliza9917 I did a lot of sobbing and blaming myself since he walked out but over the last couple of days I've done more in the house than I've managed in a long time.ive decluttered ALL his stuff and he's taken it.i told him he would regret his behaviour and guess what...he's regretting it.he wants to start from scratch and date and rediscover each other again.my guard is up,I'm in my protective bubble and I trust no-one.i have absolutely NO intentions of going backwards,only forwards.he had so many chances and he blew it.this is my time now and I'm enjoying it with my girls.ive kept busy.got work being done on the house,ordered a shed and I've decluttered.im sleeping so much better now and I wake early without feeling sluggish and tired.im ready to start a new day as they come.i honestly can't believe how different I'm starting to feel and I dont think he's liking the fact that he knows he is WRONG.too late,an ex is an ex for a reason.

OP posts:
Eliza9917 · 29/08/2018 15:11

Good for you. Stay strong and don't let him worm his way back in.

he wants to start from scratch and date and rediscover each other again

Tell him to go fuck himself.

Grated · 29/08/2018 15:13

LTB and start using paragraphs

Spiderbabe13 · 29/08/2018 15:23

I'm totally off the whole idea.not putting myself through it again.oh I wasn't polite when he said all these things.i think anger kicked in at that point.

OP posts:
Spiderbabe13 · 29/08/2018 15:24
Hmm
OP posts:
CripsSandwiches · 29/08/2018 15:25

Leave him and never look back. He's a horrible person.

New posts on this thread. Refresh page