To feel used so not help out...

[Dani18]

My close friend of 6 years is having a big birthday bash for her dd 13th birthday and asked friends via Facebook post to help out. I initailly said I would help but after these few things have made an excuse not to help.

1. Said friend owes me over £300 and I asked for it back this month ( 3 months in advance) she has barely spoken to me since and has never mentioned it so I'm a bit miffed she is having a big party for DD without even addressing the money she owes me.
2. A mutual friend (but more her friend) called me this morning to ask when I would collect him and the DJ equipment for the party. Very presumptuous imo and I reckon my friends whos party it is probably told him I would be ok to take them though don't know for definite.
3. OH pointed out it was a general Facebook post to help out so I'm not obligated to help.

So AIBU not helping out at the party? X

No, of course not. You’ve got yourself a CF there.

Do you mean you've given her 3 months from this month to pay it back, so November?

Why do you think she can't have the party and pay you back if she's got till November?

I think she means she told the CF to pay her back in August 3 months ago. so 3 months warning for the payment to be made this month.

Your CF friend is a user. Get your money back and dump her.

Ah yes I get it now reading it like that, definitely a cheeky cow then.

Her DD is entitled to a birthday party so put the owed money to one side (Unless she getting a MacBook and iPhone for her b'day).

Just become uncontactable, delay replying to messages, stay our the way. If your friend can't provide a party without hundreds of helpers then she should go for something simpler.

Can you clarify what ‘3 months in advance’ means as I’m not entirely sure from your post.

Asked for the money back in May, for it to be returned in August, telling her 3 months in advance.

Yes I loaned her it 3 months ago and asked for it to be returned by August as I've over £1000 In tuition fees to pay this month.x