To cut DD's hair

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DD starts school very soon and hair past shoulders has to be tied up. DD has very thick long curly hair and hates having it up because it gives her a headache. So I should probably cut it short enough so that she can have it down or just past her shoulders but will probably hurt less and be easier to maintain (though I doubt she'll let me put it up anyway). But she doesn't want it cut, she loves her long hair, I feel bad knowing this will upset her I just don't see how we can get around this problem without cutting her hair. Oh and if she ever got nits, it would take so long to comb through

You need to get the extra thick bobbles from Superdrug, the normal Ines are too tight.

Will she have plants instead? Or half up out of her face?

Girls that age soon see others styles and you'll have to become and expert!

I'd leave it for now and see how she gets on.

Mine has super thick hair and it does take some managing

Just give her the choice? Either it all gets cut off or you have it tied up to go to school. Personally I want it long enough to tie up because of nits and otherwise it goes in their face when they write and spend half the day sweeping it out of there face.

Bunches /plaits?

I used to get a "headache" when my hair tie was too tight. It pulled at everything and sort of stung. I'm guessing that's what she means by headache?
Scrunchies solved that in the 80s! Maybe find the current equivalent and stay away from anything that resembles and elastic band.

Alice band to keep it off her face.

Don't cut it.
My mum did this and I hated her for it and I hated it being short.

One long braid down her back? Or a loose ponytail tied behind her neck (v popular with me and my friends in the 90s)?

My daughter complains of sore head if up in a pony tail so I normally do middle parting then plait both sides, so only 2 hair bands at end of plaits doesn't pull on her hair now. She doesn't want her hair cut either. Just a small trim she will say.

My daughter has thick hair to the back of her knees and she refuses to have it cut (she's 8). I've mastered putting it in a bun doughnut for school, I put it in a high ponytail pop the bun doughnut on spread the hair over it, pop another bobble on top. Then I split the hair in two that's hanging over, do two plaits either side then wrap them around and secure with pins. It looks so fancy but takes me 2 minutes to do (and I'm hopeless at hair).

I really wouldn't cut it tbh, I'm in Aus so not sure if it the same but long hair is totally the thing here for girls of all ages. It is really unusual to have girls with hair short enough to not have to be tied up for school. If she loves her hair I would try and manage it until you see what is the norm. Can you get away with a loose plait or low bunches?

I don’t see why long hair is so de rigueur for girls noadays. Growing up in the 60s/70s I had short hair at various times as did many of my friends. It was no big deal.

Don’t cut it- if it’s hard to manage maybe change your products there are some great things out there- my dad also has thick curly hair. Chunky bobbles or scrunch types won’t get tangled. Or braids are handy to keep hair from tangling. Not sure what you already do but you can get Shea moist products leave in conditioners and anti tangle remedies that make it so easy to manage- new range in Superdrug called “noughts wave hello” is brilliant too. Good luck!

French plat, and two clips, keeps it neat and easily brushed out before bath time.

Could you braid it?

Something like one of these?

I've tried plaites but she just takes them out during the day, perhaps knowing she's not allowed to then she wouldn't. I can't do french plaites on her, I'm quite good at doing hair but really can't do hers. My older DD is going into year 6 but her hair is thin and only slightly wavy so always been easy to do. She did have a bob at one point, none of the others kids really thought anything of it.

I think short hair on girls is lovely if they want short hair (my DD 7 has a pixie bob) but seeing as your DD doesn’t then a plait is probably the least uncomfortable and easy option for her.

Hi OP. I use these hair ties, I get awful headaches with normal ones but these are fine. She might like the variety of colours they come in.

Ah cross post. Maybe just put the front bit up then to keep it out of her face.

it’s up to you if it’s manageable when it’s shorter and she likes it then go for it- my dd’s is harder to control when it’s shorter as is mine so we always opt for longer as it’s easier to get it to sit right and put up. Boucleme do some amazing curl products you have to buy online also.