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I think he's dodging taxes, WIBU to do all I can to help karma kick his sorry butt?

17 replies

AEFT · 24/08/2018 09:27

Child maintenance pre annual review letter came through.
States ExDP is only expected to pay flat rate per week due to benefits/income between £10-100 per week.

I know he's working and probably earning more than that. He took DD to get some school bits the other week and had £150 In cash, which hed just been paid cash in hand from his weekly paid job.
of course he couldn't spare a penny of that cash for actual maintence but at least he bought her a few uniform bits.

He still refuses to pay the flat rate of 6.72 p week. We split up 3 years ago and he's made 2 payments of less than £70 in that time. He job hops to avoid paying. He's sporadic and unreliable with contact yet still insists he wants to see her as much as possible (the past year he's nearly seen her for a total of 15 hours....)

Child maintenance seem to be under the impression he's not working.

WIBU to shop him into benefit fraud/HMRC/child maintenance?
Is it illegal to pay someone cash in hand nowadays?

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AEFT · 24/08/2018 14:59

Bumpity bump

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Seniorcitizen1 · 24/08/2018 15:59

For the sale of your children you should shop him. Too many deadbeats dad fail to pay adequately for their children. Perfectly legal to pay/be paid in cash

stillnotTheDoctor · 24/08/2018 16:01

Same situation here but I happen to know he has a creative accountant. I never bothered.

YeTalkShiteHen · 24/08/2018 16:02

Fuck it, I’d shop him. It’s about the only situation where I would, but I’d stick him in without a second thought.

stillnotTheDoctor · 24/08/2018 16:05

@YeTalkShiteHen how do you prove it tho?! Self employed, creative accountant. How do you prove that they get much more than the £70 a week they claim to earn working full time

YeTalkShiteHen · 24/08/2018 16:11

I’d tell them about the accountant too. I bet under threat of their “creativity” being scrutinised they’d give it up.

Or at least it would ruffle a few feathers.

My XH pays fuck all, never has.

AEFT · 24/08/2018 16:47

Glad the general consensus is to shop him.

Here's a thought- if his boss is supposed to be deducting part of his wage for child maintenance, but instead just pays him fully in cash, will his boss be in trouble too?
It's a small business

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DerekTheBrave · 24/08/2018 16:51

Why would his boss be deducting child maintenance if CMS think he’s not working?

YeTalkShiteHen · 24/08/2018 16:52

If the boss is dodging tax and knows about the CMS, yes.

Parisbun · 24/08/2018 16:54

There is a huge interest just now in collusive employers who keep employees off the books and pay below NMW. Why should your DC go without so that they can benefit from their little arrangement. Report their sorry arses .

flopsyrabbit1 · 24/08/2018 17:04

report his sorry arse

in a similar position but dont have any address or know who he works for and dont know how to get any

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 24/08/2018 17:26

I'd never shop anyone However there are always exceptions to the rules and This is one of those exceptions.
It's a pity the government don't have the same urgency in houndIng the absent parent as they do the residential parent.

8dayweek · 24/08/2018 17:45

Modern slavery is big on the agenda at the moment. I would think of it less as "shopping him" and more as "protecting him" from the bad Employer Grin

topcat2014 · 24/08/2018 17:53

Employers commit an offence (civil) if they do not comply with attachment of earnings orders.

Neshoma · 24/08/2018 18:37

How do these men manage to job-hop. I often read on here about it and with women ending up with virtually nothing

Do they work for gangs for something? How do they get another job so quickly who 'helps'? Surely anyone with a decent job has decent employers?

flopsyrabbit1 · 24/08/2018 18:44

in my case ex went self employed and 11yrs ago he was earning £7-800 pounds a week

went SE as soon as i went to CMS and now funnily he earns before Tax etc £240 a week ha ha ha and he still dosent pay

YeTalkShiteHen · 24/08/2018 18:48

XH went off grid. Cash in hand work, living with one girlfriend after another, no bills in his name, no bank account.

Managed to get legal aid to force me into letting DS1 see him again though!

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