Rehab

[JW1226]

My mum is not the woman she used to be,
I don't even know where to start but she's currently in prison for the third time, she's not a criminal she's a lost soul in my eyes.

She's struggled with mental health, alcohol and drug abuse, she was made homeless due to not getting better or engaging properly.

The police sent her to custody and she was sentenced to prison to me she needed to go to a mental hospital and be detoxified.

This has been torture for me I need my mum and everyone says she will never be the same again.

Why do the courts not send people to rehab in my eyes some people are so far gone they don't know how to get better, especially if they are in the streets getting hurt, raped, and the rest.

It breaks my heart , if someone hasn't got a safe place how do they expect them to rebuild them selfs ?

How much does rehab cost ? If I was to win the lottery which I have more chance being struck by lightning I'd use that money to save my mum.

She's due out in 5 weeks apparently they can let them go even if they have no where to go also her probation officer told my Nan to not let her stay here, so back to square one.

I'm having my 3rd baby soon and I have no one to share my happiness with we all need atleast want our mums around, I won't have that. Maybe I'm feeling sorry for myself I'm from a dysfunctional family and a little normality would be nice. I just have terrible anxiety that she'll be found dead on the side of the road and I will be left filled with guilt thinking I could have saved her.

Sorry for the negativity I just want a big cuddle and tell her I love her x

My heart goes out to you.

You didn't cause it
You can't control it
You can't cure it

The three C's

Your mum is a grown woman who has made some poor choices, whilst doing that she put herself first and that it what you must do, you aren't responsible for her.

My words may be harsh but they are true and it's the only way you can survive without any feelings of guilt or responsibility if you live by that mantra xx

I have lots of experience in this area and there is literally no option of the courts sending someone to rehab as a sentence. The local drug and alcohol services make referrals to rehab but the long term ones cost thousands of pounds and as such they have to be convinced that someone is motivated to change, and as much as you might want your mum to change is she really ready? Her Probation Officer will have said no to her returning to your Nan's due to perceived risks. It's hard to hear I know

Google Hetty's - it's an organisation that helps families of those with substance misuse and offending issues

Thankyou ladies,

I know we (mums family) have had to be cruel to be kind, also I've had to sacrifice due to myself having my own family.

There's just always that part of me that feels I can do more when realistically I can't right now I have my own life to sort out. (Recent break up during pregnancy of my 3rd child, sleeping on a sofa at my Nans house as my landlord illegally evicted me and stole all my possessions so I'm also in the process of taking her to court) I just don't want her to end up dead and me full of regret. Xxx

A detox costs about £7000 although if she is currently in prison and not drinking/using then she does not need an actual detox as she will not be dependent. As for rehab - there will probably be recovery services in your local area which will be free. This can involve counselling, groups, 1:1 support. Do a google search for drug and alcohol services. A rehab facility where you stay is really expensive. Her GP would know what's available. And the probation service should be helping to get her the right support.