To ask all guests to take shoes off in my house?

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Just that really. A few people seem really put off by that.

My dear sil has to be reminded several times before she takes them off.

I hate the thought of trailing the dirt inside the house.

We don't really have guests but when we do I ask them to take their shoes off. If they don't like it they don't have to come back, do they? Yes I do care more about the floor because I have to clean it. We never have parties and even if we did people wouldn't get all dressed up with fancy clothes and heels etc.

We take our shoes off and ask visitors to remove theirs too. ( Occasionally I've let people off if they've obviously just walked from their car eg health visitor/ policeman etc ). I also have shoe covers - I've done this for 13 years and only had one person with an issue. A meter reading official - who refused to take his workboots off. I rang up my provider and explained why I'd not let him come in to read the meter. They were fine - the ones before and after him.never had a problem ( in fact some brought their own shoe covers )

I have flooring in mine, apart from the living room and the stairs and landing.

You can wear shoes wherever you like as long as it isn't on my carpet 👍🏼

I would be happy to remove my shoes if I am going to new persons house I ask and I always wear shoes that don't make my feet smell if I know I may have to remove my shoes.

Is this the Bucket residence?

"And good morning to you. My name is Bouquet, B-U-C-K-E-T."

"Now then, Richard, conversation: what do you normally talk about in the car?"
Taking shoes off
Richard: "I think normally you talk, and I listen."

"I'm very annoyed about the way the bakers used the wrong kind of flour in my order for the visit by the new vicar. I want you to complain, dear. Be scathing, Richard, crush them. Oh, should I ask the vicar to take his shoes off, as we've just had our herringbone re-lacquered?"

Aaargh this is why I'm dreading moving to a flat with a carpet. I hate them! (Flat was perfect in every other way)

Luckily most people I know ask whether to take their shoes off. Atm I have laminate and say 'up to you' because I don't mind, but I'm going to have to start saying 'yes please'.

I never ask anyone to take their shoes off. They aren't coming with the boots full of cow shit after all. When I was offered slippers in other people homes, I was outwardly a bit ... squeamish about using them (inwardly, actually HATED it) and now always bring my own shoes (court shoes -or flat ones).

I think it looks really silly to have a nice outfit on (say, you're invited for a dinner party or simply a meal) and sit there without shoes. If guests made an effort to dress up, don't diminish them by asking them go shoe-less.

I have lino and laminate downstairs so I'm not worried can wipe clean. No shoes upstairs though as its carpeted.

Do any of these "shoes off" people have dogs I wonder? Seems a rather a nonsense to ask people to remove shoes if so.

I'll gladly take my shoes off if asked, but cultural issues or snow aside, I would think it rude if virtually the first thing I said to a visitor was "take your shoes off please". It's so unwelcoming! I live in an old house with indestructible wooden and tiled floors anyway, and frankly you need your shoes for warmth!

As long as your floors are clean I will always take my shoes off

I'm firmly shoes on. DP and I don't wear shoes at home but I would never dream of asking visitors to remove their shoes, unless they were obviously muddy and filthy. In fact, I tell people to keep them on! I don't want to have to look at people's bare feet or holey socks thank you.

I think it's really precious and unwelcoming, and I'm an extremely house proud person who has cream carpets. I do remove shoes in other people's homes but only if asked and I hate doing it

I love a good shoes on/off thread

My feeling (from reading many of them) is that taking shoes off is a lower middle class thing. There may also be some regional variations. Any working class/upper middle class people I know don't do it.

It's also very rare in Ireland, where I'm from.

We rent, in a place with light carpets and have a crawling baby. Shoes off.

Asking guests to take their shoes off is very hyacinth. It's naff and common. If you're fine with that, go ahead.

I hate visiting houses like yours. I have to think am I wearing presentable socks, if at all. Heals and bare feet are a nightmare in this situation.

Makes me very self conscious.

This reminds me of the episode of sex in the city were the awful mum made Carey take of her shoes at the kids party and someone stole her expensive heals!!

Shoes off because you have a crawling baby? All my babies survived our shoes on policy

All my babies survived our shoes on policy

Mine too. Germ exposure is important in building up there immune system (mine are never ill).

My mum always told me it was rude to wear your shoes in someones house if you were staying for a while (eg Dinner, overnight etc) so I've always taken mine off. DH does too.

To those who keep them on, do you sit around your own house with them on? I'm genuinely curious because they're the first thing off when I get home!

I would prefer people take their shoes off in my house, but I certainly don't force anyone to!

We rent too....its partly me wanting my deposit back and partly an allergies thing in our case.

Yawn.

Not this again.

I’m a no shoes 👞 person in my house.
Extremely houseproud and with young children don’t want shoes on my carpets having been outside and trodden in fuck knows what.

Each to their own and this is my own; no shoes in this yard.

Family and friends are exactly the same
and everyone removes shoes upon entering each others homes. It’s respectful, polite and frankly no big deal.

YANBU

@Lethaldrizzle yes because I don't want him picking or eating up crap walked in by others.

@LaurieMarlow he gets plenty of germ exposure, I'm not precious. I just don't want mud, dog poo or random debris to be a part of his five a day.

I don't like to be without footwear in somebody else's house - is it ok to bring my own slippers to wear on a visit?