To worry he might take our daughter?

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My little girl is 3 weeks old and her father and I had a very rocky relationship while I was pregnant which ended in him finishing things while I was 6 months pregnant.
He's very narcissistic and a compulsive liar, even down to lying to the registrar about his occupation to make himself seem more important.

I was in two minds about adding him onto the birth certificate without any court order in place but I knew adding him on was the right thing to do.

However at the appointment he asked to have five copies of the birth certificate and when I questioned him on this he said it was encase they got lost but it seems excessive and now he's asking for unsupervised access whereas up till now he has come and seen her when she's with me.

I'm terrified he's going to take her and refuse to return her and I don't want to talk about court/custody agreements as we're getting on okay at the moment and I don't want to get his back up.

Probably a silly post but I'm so scared that he'll not give her back to me and keep asking for her without me

Never ignore your gut instinct.

3 weeks is far too little for unsupervised access.

Thank you so much for your comments and advice ladies. It's nice to know I'm not being unreasonable with my worries

I do kind of feel calling him a prick is uncalled for.

To be fair, there are plenty of pricks around - and he is the kind of prick that leaves his pregnant girlfriend, so....Best not leave it until he actually abuses the OP's trust.

You don't have to agree to unsupervised access, OP.

Or maybe due to the rocky relationship he thought it best to break up?

We can assume all we want but we don’t know everything.

The police have no powers to remove baby from dad if he has PR, if there are no safeguarding issues. Get a court order.

3 weeks is too young to be separated from her mother... can you go with them to visit the old grandad? It’s understandable that you don’t want to part with baby, I wouldn’t as many other mums wouldn’t. I split up with dh when our dd was 8 months and he didn’t have her unsupervised until she was ready at about 2+ and that’s because he didn’t want to cause her any distress. It was good for me because I felt better knowing that she could talk and communicate with me what was going on etc

Your gut instinct is telling you he's not to be trusted.

wetwashing it's not quite that straightforward. Have you even seen the forms to complete for Court if safeguarding is an issue? It's a difficult process.

OP, do you have concerns for her welfare? What are they? You need to show that you are putting the needs of your DD first; which means her having a relationship with her father or protecting her if you are worried.