Parents in their 70s. Mum needs minor surgery, she can’t get an appointment with the nhs till October and the thing she needs is really annoying and bothering her. Dad is an anxious type and has catastrophised that there is something sinister going on with mum’s thingy, despite many reassurances otherwise.
So he came round and asked me to book her in to see a private doc at the local private hospital. I checked with her and she said “good idea, it’s driving me mad” so I booked it.
Then Dad, who has form for being tighter than a gnat’s bum, rang me to ask would I take her to the appointment. I asked why he couldn’t take her, or indeed go alone, it’s the summer hols and I’ve no one to have the kids etc and he said he didn’t feel he couldn’t get about like he used to. Admittedly he has bad knees but it doesn’t stop him going the pub etc. Then he asked if I could pay towards it too. 
And said “don’t tell your mother.”
They go to ALL their appointments together.
So I twigged that he doesn’t want to go because he thinks if I go then I will pay. He and my mum are comfortable, but my Dad will always try and get an edge where he can.
As it is, I paid the initial consultation upfront anyway so it wasn’t an issue but I haven’t told him that, and I’m annoyed that I think he’s tried to manipulate me.
AIBU?