I have just been told by a flying monkey that she said I'm awful including loads of lies, which she always does after arguments, then suddenly everyone's expected to forget it once she's decided its fine again.
Its ex MIL. The kids' 'grandma'. Two weeks ago was told in front of them how I'm a shit mother, so i retaliated and said she was no better. She stormed out saying never to contact her again, I haven't though it made me sick for a while as she can be horribly nasty.
I feel so much better. I don't ever want contact again except we are linked by BIL and SIL who I have minimised contact with too.
I'm waiting for the next argument-it is brewing and I will get the vile nasty mouth again. I'm 40 and not having it, she was vile to my now deceased DM and I will never forgive her.
I know if I say I never want to see her again she will raise holy hell-think calling work and lying about you etc. So how can I make sure I don't have any more of her toxicity in mine or my kids lives?
Im getting a job soon so she will not see us in the week ever. She likes to call on a saturday. I am grey rock, she knows nothing if my thoughts or life.
Arguing will fuel her love of drama and I really don't want any more crap.
Any advice please?
Thanks in advance.