To ask how important sexual attraction is in a relationship

[ChangedName37]

In a relationship where I've come to a sad realisation that I'm not really sexually attracted to my partner anymore. However he ticks every other box in regards what I would want in a partner.
We could break up and I could meet someone I'm very sexually compatible with, but that person could be disloyal, lazy, a general prick.
I guess basically I'm trying to work out whether this is normal and I should count my blessings for all the wonderful things my partner is (even if sex is a chore), or whether I'm right in thinking that at 30yrs old I should give up a great guy for better sex.
Has anyone broken up with someone for similar reasons and gone on to regret it? Or on the other hand has anyone stayed with someone and put up with the fact that they will always view sex as another tick box to do like the bloody dishes or laundry?!

Does he know how you feel?

I couldn't live like this. I'd get by; but I wouldn't be happy without that chemistry, that sexual element.

If a man had written this I dread to think how he’d be responded to....!?

Relationships are to be worked at. Ups and downs come to us all.
You should not have had a child with him if you felt this way about him when TTC. But this is the fashion these days, kids don’t need parents in stable relationships apparently.
I’m trying not to attack you personally but fear I’m failing miserably.
Hormonal imbalances can put one off sex as others have said, but to not be attracted to him? That feels different...
The grass is rarely greener, and I do hope for yours, his and your one year olds sake you persevere and remain a family unit!!
Good luck (and sorry).

Changed it's a tricky one to say. I'm not sure myself what the boundaries are between love, in love and sexually attracted.
Possibly they differ from person to person.

I think for me, the "in love" feeling and sexual attraction seem to be the same or go hand in hand. But that can wear away or maybe not be that strong in the first place. You can still be left with a feeling of love, compassion and caring for your partner though.

Should you walk away when it gets to that stage? So hard to say. It depends on so many things. Age. Children. If you are happy in your life with them in most ways.
It is a big thing not to have though, as you say you used to be a sexual person and must miss that side of yourself.

I'll be honest, I left someone I cared for deeply as a person but no longer wanted to have sex with, for someone that I very much did. Not married and no children involved. I'm ten years in now with that person, and of course the initial head over heels high and wanting to shag all the time has diminished but I'm still in love with him, and still feel very sexual towards him.

I also think there's a big risk of having your head turned when you're in a relationship without attraction.
Just rambling now really!