To have a big cry over losing DDs baby photos

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DP thinks IABU as its 'only photos', but I disagree. I've been having a really stressful few months, and my MH has been on a steep decline for a while, waking up to my iPhone in 'recovery mode' this morning and then spending hours trying to save the 1000s of photos of DD on it to no avail was the final straw. I've tried everything, nothing was backed up to iCloud (full) or a computer so they are well and truly gone. I'm devastated, looking through photos of DD and nice times we have had helps me massively when I'm feeling low, and now they are all gone. Maybe I'm being a bit dramatic, but it feels like one shit thing after another the last few years (much more serious than lost photos) and I'm too tired to put on a happy face and pretend I'm not bothered because DP thinks it's silly to get upset. Anyone else had this happen and manage to get over it?

Yes you allowed to be upset, I would be. No idea if anything can be done and try to let it upset you for too long.

It's very upsetting, yanbu

I send photos of my baby to everyone all the time, If you asked your friends and family to send back photos of her you might get way more returned to you than you think

You poor thing, I'd be absolutely gutted.

I hope you can build up a collection again from family, friends etc sending you copies of any photos they have?

YANBU. This happened to me over 10 years ago and I still remember how upset I was. Ask friends and family to send you any photos they have. Check your social media for any photos on there. Take more photos and back up automatically (I use One Drive app - Microsoft office 365, costs about £60 a year for office and 1TB of storage. If you have amazon prime, they have photo storage included in the price - the iPhone app is called prime photos I think). Try not to dwell on it, and make more memories.

Have friends and family any they could share?

In future back up to a USB or similar.

You may be able to recover them using a computer. There's tutorials on youtube; it's worth a try.

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Happened here. I had photos of ds' fist year on my computer in one file. Computer went to get work done on it. Was told they backed up everything... went looking a while afterwards and out of 1000+ pictures I had 200, all of which I already had printed. I was gutted. Emailed the shop but got no reply. This was before clouds and decent phones.
Yanbu to be upset.

I would be devastated!!

I’ve got a 4.5 year old and a 12 month old and so far I’ve already got about 3,000 photos of them in photo albums and if anything happened to them I would be heartbroken.

My DH laughs at me and my love of photos but he also knows they’re my most treasured possession.

YABU at all

Absolutely not unreasonable. It has reminded me I need to back up a load of photos...and physically print some

Can you take it to an Apple store? An “Apple genius” might be able to do something?

Definitely check your sent emails as you may well have emailed lots of the best ones to people. Do you put them on Facebook? Has your DH taken lots that you might not have had/might be similar to yours?

YANBU at all to be gutted, but you might find you recover more than you think

I'd be upset, you're allowed a little time to be upset. Obviously you will get over it though.
Ask family and friends to send any photos they have.

It's highly likely you've shared your favourite photos.
Contact everyone on your contact list who is a likely candidate, explain and ask them to forward them back to you.
Good luck!

Don’t despair yet,
Take it to an apple store, their people can work wonders and maybe salvage something?
I’d be very very upset op, so your not unreasonable at all. Saying that,
It will be ok, it isn’t nice for you but it will be ok, not many photos of me as a baby. Maybe you could ask friends family or anyone you’ve sent photos to if they have any they could send you back. Big hugs

I agree it would be upsetting - try Genius bar? There are usually ways to recover even "lost/deleted" data. My kids have no idea what I looked like as a child as there are no photos of me in existence before age 30.

Thank you for all your kind words, it has made me feel a little better to know I'm not being totally unreasonable. I don't have Facebook so no pictures there, I have a few on Instagram but not of her face, and I don't text anyone photos of her except my DM, and that has been very infrequent due to me being depressed and isolating myself so I probably have about 10 decent pictures left altogether. Just feeling very sorry for myself at the moment, thank you for reading my whining!

Also if you have other Apple products (Ipad, etc) they often are stored on the others as shared pictures. Good luck!

I’d be upset too. I have the google photos app on my iphone, because my cloud is full, and it automatically saves all the photos you take elsewhere, it’s fab. Take it to the apple store.