Selfies on Facebook.

[Marymarg]

I have a freind on Facebook that's either saying how ugly she is or posting loads of selfies (with cleavage showing) I didn't give her looks much thought until she started saying this, I mean she isn't ugly bit you wouldn't call her pretty either.
I've noticed she also puts lots of selfies when she's feeling down.

AIBU to think that if you think your that ugly you wouldn't post any selfies?

I am ugly and still post the odd selfie. My friends know that I am ugly - there is no point in hiding it

It sounds as though she might be insecure about her looks and is seeking reassurance. Lots of people think they look ugly when they are anything but.

Poor girl, I'm guessing she's looking to boost her self esteem by people liking the picture or commenting "looking good" type comments.

I've noticed she also puts lots of selfies when she's feeling down.

So she wants a confidence boost then.

Hi I know someone like that .says their socially anxious and avoids builders but puts lots of pics up pouting and with her boobs hanging out .I mean hats off to her but if you don't like attention off builders why put pics up like that.im on the other spectrum always the photographer never in the pics lol

My friends know that I am ugly - there is no point in hiding it

This really made me laugh 😂

I posted one every day of a recent holiday. I felt happy and relaxed, good about myself after a period of feeling very down.

I don't think I am ugly but I am aware that I'm not a young or attractive as I was. A selfie can help you feel better about that and how you look as sometimes you feel great just for that moment so why not celebrate it?

@Notreadyforkidstogrowupyet probably because it's on a screen, and edited / posed for to her preference and she doesn't have to deal with any reactions other than some likes.

I'm similar, I hate my appearance in real life, but I like my photos if they're the right angle, lighting etc. As I don't look like myself half the time! Though I don't pout or do sexy poses.

The thing is one minute she will say she's ugly then literally five minutes later loads of selfies. If you think you're that ugly then why lost selfies?
Unless you're tw1nsetandpearls

I don't post shedloads of photos but sometimes if I am out somewhere alone or with one of the children I will do.

I went through a stage of doing it but stopped when I realised I don't give a fuck anymore what people think. It's great getting older in that way (41) and my looks haven't changed very much. Attitude most definitely has.

It's insecurity and a kind of addiction to the "likes" and " You look beautiful hun" comments.

Looks mean nothing on FB wrt ‘likes’ - it depends how popular you are generally.
One very unattractive friend of mine gets about 80 likes every time she posts a photo of herself with everyone telling her how good she looks. She’s a 2 out of 10 at best, but she’s lovely & popular.
Plus some very pretty friends maybe get 5 likes at most.
Jealous maybe?
Who knows, but FB is no barometer to how good looking you are

True!

You've got a point there .had a fab weekend in Blackpool and took loads of pics in Madame tussauds there's one of me with thor .I look beaming and carefree till I noticed how wobbly my belly is on it eek lol.time for more oranges I think

If your friend is saying she is ugly and then uploading selfies, she is seeking the assurance of people telling her she looks good.

Noone actually tells her she looks good though. Well not many anyway.

She’s looking for external validation. I see so many women out and about fluffing their hair and pouting their lips, taking incessant selfies. I find it really pathetic and desperate. It’s such a shame that so many people seem to get their self esteem from other people, even strangers, thinking they look nice.

That's interesting Lois I see it far more on social media than RL. Where you add filters and stuff.

Men do it too, more off-putting in a man, not sure why but it is.

There is nothing more cringe than when people put photos of themselves where they’ve obviously done themselves up and then put “omg such a mess” or “need to diet”, when they’re obviously just looking for “don’t be daft hun you look gorjus” or “wot a stunner”

LadyRochfords Yes I live in London so see a lot of people stop abruptly to snap a selfie in front of various instafamous locations whilst the 300 people behind them all bump into each other trying to get past. But often I see more random locations like in Waterstones the other day. Also saw a woman bump into a lamppost recently while she was filming herself

Aha Iswym Lois, wasn't thinking of it that way. Was thinking more of bathroom-type selfies or gym changing rooms where it's not about where you are/who you're with or what you're doing really.

Took loads of pics in Madame tussauds there's one of me with thor.

^ This made me laugh - my DS would love a pic like that.

I have a male friend (more of an acquaintance really) who does that. The pictures are always of him doing gardening wearing just a pair of little shorts, and he's all oiled up and waxed. They're quite blatantly posed too - once he was mowing the lawn with a lawnmower that wasn't plugged in. He posts self-deprecating captions about what a mess he looks and all the comments underneath are from women reassuring him how hot he is. He is quite good-looking but the desperation and the vanity is just incredibly unattractive in my eyes. It must be down to insecurity at the bottom of everything.

She wants you to say nooooo you're not, hun