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in thinking my DP has complete double standards and he has no balls??

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kittylette · 05/06/2007 09:41

As you can see Im very

He has complete double standards when it comes to my mum and his.

He is a mummys boy and wont say 'boo' to her

My mum borrowed £20 and said she would give it back thursday - he was ranting over this.

But his mum borrowed £300(!!) of our wedding money about 5 months ago and hasn't given it back!!

I TXTd her and asked for it backa nd she said shes into her overdraft and owes her own mum money so cant give it us!!

She also promised us £500 which we arent getting it seems.

So the wedding has been cancelled till next year.

I TXTd her to tell her the weddding is cancelled (and mentioned it was because we haven't got all the money we had hoped to) and she repilies ..

'really? ok - can i come pick the boys up tomorrow'

no sorry i cnat give you your money back ect...

and of course DP doesnt say a word, if it were my mum e would be fuming and calling her allsorts!

like its acceptable!!

I dont care anyway, were gonna do it ourselves without her help.

but i still want my fecking £300 back!

What kind of mum borrows £300 from her soses to give it back?

rant over!! lol

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suzycreamcheese · 05/06/2007 17:11

kitty..
this is rotten situ to be in

they change round their mums there is a blind spot...
get your dosh back and have a great day!..when it comes..summer will be much better imho...

kittylette · 05/06/2007 19:31

lulumamma she told us she has 10,000 savings and she earns 120 a day

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helenhismadwife · 05/06/2007 19:35

its awful when you lend someone money and they dont repay it especially family you cant avoid them and you cant ignore them, she doesnt have a gambling problem or something does she? a summer wedding will be lovely though kitty a nice bid meringue dress

Spandex · 05/06/2007 19:47

Bit weird to focus on cancelling the wedding as good advice. Depending on the kind of wedding, £300 can be a big chunk of the budget.

It doesn't matter whether you have to cancel the wedding or not, you should get your money back. How pathetic is your DH?

I'd write off the £300 she owes you. And never ever ever lend £ your MIL or anyone in his family again.

And never take any offers of financial help from them either. It just seems that the normal expectations of paying money back or fulfilling promises of money gifts are never met so don't raise those expectations.

kimi · 05/06/2007 19:58

When you make out your wedding gift list make sure you put on it ....

Set of balls for DP
back bone for DP
and some morals for your MIL to be.

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