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Has anyone ever successfully got over their spider phobia?

40 replies

Pickleypickles · 22/08/2018 18:06

I'm so scared of them it's pathetic, it's an hour long teary event trying to get rid of them! Last night one escaped while I was trying to compose myself enough to get the Hoover and now I just can't relax at all I was up till 3am nearly worrying about what I'd do if it got on my baby and not being able to wee as the last place I saw it was in the bathroom.

Has any successfully overcome an extreme spider phobia? If you have how did you do it?

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chaoscategorised · 22/08/2018 21:01

Oops, didn't read the full thread - but yes, the friendly spider course! Couldn't believe in one afternoon he was holding a biggish chunky spider on his bare hand - I don't hate them and I wouldn't have loved that!

Lightsonthewater · 22/08/2018 21:05

Please do the course so you stop vacuuming them up!

Lellochip · 22/08/2018 21:11

Yet another London zoo Friendly Spider graduate! I was probably one of the less phobic ones there but some people were really so terrified that it impacted their lives on a daily basis. To 'pass' the course you have to catch a decent sized house spider with cup and card, I think only 1 out of 40 odd of us couldn't do it by the end of the afternoon.

Sister and friend who did it with me were both much worse, and can both catch and release outside without too much trouble at all 👍

SlimGin · 22/08/2018 21:12

Reading this thread has made me:

  1. Really want to do the friendly spiders programme (but £135!)
  2. Paranoid that a big black spider is going to run across my lounge.

I did a hypnotherapy course when I was a teen which has helped slightly - I can squish (sorry Sad ) small-medium sized spiders and maybe even rescue very little ones but the big nasties still freak me out terribly. I'm dreading Autumn, baby's due mid September and DP works v long hours.
I thought the spindly cellar spiders were ok until one gave birth to hundreds of mini spindlys!

SureIusedtobetaller · 22/08/2018 21:23

It was about £115 when I did it and we were sooooo broke at the time. Never regretted it for a second. Everyone on the course was improved. I have no idea why it works (there was a short hypnosis but only a few minutes) but 18 years later I still don’t get that pounding heart feeling around them.

bellinisurge · 22/08/2018 21:27

I still hate them but I don't want my dd to see how much they scare me. That's how I deal with it.

SlimGin · 22/08/2018 21:36

I've just asked my sister if she wants to join me on it! I guess worth the money if it works

PocketFluff · 22/08/2018 21:39

I didn't have a phobia but I really didn't like them and I wanted to get over it. So I started looking, really looking hard, at photos of them. You could also then move onto videos of them. Then when I caught one (glass and a card) I would keep it and just look at it for a while. And the more I did that the less frightened I became.

They still make me jump if I see one but I can catch them easily and am a lot more comfortable with them. Which is just as well as there are loads in my house!

He11y · 23/08/2018 05:06

My daughter and I went to the spider awareness session at Bristol zoo and it was worth every penny - can’t recommend it highly enough. It transformed our lives because we were ruled by spiders. We decided we couldn’t manage another spider season so had to do something.

Neither of us held the tarantula and it wouldn’t have helped us in the slightest if we had because we were afraid of the ones roaming around the UK and, most of all, our house. We don’t see tarantulas and aren’t likely to so we couldn’t see how being near one would help us cope with the ones hiding in corners at home.

For us it was dealing with house spiders that helped. Obviously the lead up to it was needed - the talks and hypnotism - because you wouldn’t have seen us for dust if they’d just produced a house spider at the start!!

Every single person in that room totally believed the spider would leap at them, run up their arm, throw a web and take a swing at their face... I could go on!

What they taught us was spiders (not the ones in our houses anyway) don’t do any of those things. They’re actually very predictable and once they’ve stopped running, you can take your time putting a glass over them and removing them. At the start, most of us were practically throwing that glass while simultaneously leaping backwards, but by the end we were all confidently catching them. At one point they were releasing two at a time and we were all fine.

Honestly, we were sceptical but we knew we had to do something and it’s worked better than we could ever have imagined.

The first time a massive one walked across the living room and my daughter said, ‘There’s a spider’ and calmly caught it in a glass while I sat on the sofa nearby was just amazing! Couldn’t put a price on it, baring in mind our previous strategies have included moving out of the house if there is nobody to catch one!

Hope that helps and I wish you well - it can be a severely debilitating phobia, especially at this time of year.

He11y · 23/08/2018 05:15

I should add I’m now a cleaner and there is no way on earth I could have done this job before overcoming the phobia! Not a chance! I still jump a little when I first see the big ones but I’m completely fine with smaller ones now and I can cope with bigger ones. If you’d told me three years ago I’d be doing this, I’d have laughed in your face, as would everyone who knows me!

Bubblysqueak · 23/08/2018 05:40

I did the exactly the same thing as annie and although I don't love them and still get a little chill when they run, I can successfully catch and release now with a cup and piece of card (although still occasionally have to throw the cup and card and retrieve later if the big buggers start to move around the glass)

FrankWelker · 23/08/2018 05:51

I did the Friendly Spider Programme at London Zoo last year. Unfortunately for me it didn’t work- still terrified. Am following this thread for any ideas

SleepWarrior · 23/08/2018 06:07

It's giving me the heebie jeebies just reading about them!

I find myself much braver when there's someone equally or more scared with me - I always take the role of spider catcher which I could never do if my DH is nearby.

PinkBuffalo · 23/08/2018 19:26

slimgin I was so worried about the cost ( that's a lot of money to me plus train fare to London on top!) but I can honestly say now it was worth every penny as I simply don't even think about it anymore.

GimmeBread · 23/08/2018 19:35

Well at least you can deal with them OP. Not trying to be competitive here Grin but I literally scream and run away when I encounter one. My DH is excellent at getting rid of them - if a little slow at times 🤨.

If I was on my own I would fo sit in the car/get a stranger off the street/phone my DH/neighbour to come and get rid of it. Disclaimer: I have done all of these.

I am terrified of them. And I'm getting worse the older I get.

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