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We are having 2 lots of dhs family visiting from overseas. Not at the same time but consecutively.
They won't stay with us the whole time but will come and stay with us twice over the two weeks for about 2 days.
I am disabled and not able to look after them like I used to. Like cooking, making up beds, cleaning the house etc. This is something I liked doing when I was well. My dh and DS are run ragged so they say trying to keep everything together re work and the house so things won't get done that I'd like done to make our guests comfortable. I've dropped my standards massively since becoming ill.
One of our visitors is great. We get on really well and they pitch in. They also understand my disability and the massive fatigue that comes with it. They are always telling me to sit down etc and checking that they're not tiring me. I get tired just by people being there.
The other visitors are lovely people but a bit of a nightmare. Lots of faffing about and an inability to make decisions. Getting a bowl of cereal becomes a massive operation that takes over the kitchen and means no one else can get in to make a cuppa or get their own breakfast. They stop what they're doing to ask unimportant questions and it just takes them forever to get anything done.
My mobility is a bit crap so I either use a walker or hold on to furniture to get around and they keep getting in my way or stopping me to ask me stuff. I have to ask them to move all the time so I can get to my chair.
Then there's the conversations. Long drawn out intricate descriptions of something very minor. I used to be able to feign interest but I think I may end up being rude and yawning.
I'm also currently sleeping in the spare room so I can get a proper nights sleep away from dh snoring. I'll need to move back in with dh when they arrive. If I want to move back to the spare room in between visits it'll involve too many bed changes.
No one has the money to stay in a nearby B and B for more than one night. They'll do that when we have a get together with elderly family (who will stay with us.) Elderly family live too far away to make the round trip in one day. They are both in their late 80's and hard work
When I was well and they visited I could escape for a bit but that's not possible at present. I'm getting really stressed out about it but don't want to say they can't come. I mean I want to see them all......but just not for that long!
WIBU to retreat to my room with iPad and a cuppa vodka when they get too much for me?