Not really BU but could do with a handhold

[SummerHoliday79]

Had a baby a few weeks ago. Really happy, everything went well and have been on a high since the birth.

Last week one of my parents has been told they have cancer. Parent has had lots of health issues relating to that part of the body (throat) and have been under GP/outpatient care for several years. So massive shock that this has appeared now (or only just been noticed).
Parent was due to go on holiday at the end of September but now been told to cancel. Biopsy booked in for next week and results due shortly after which will then lead to a treatment plan I assume.

I am devastated. Anxious. Worried. At the same time trying to focus on baby DC and not let this worry hang over our time together. But how can I be happy? Worried DP will think I don't care about them or am less upset that I am if that makes sense? I have had mild depression in the past and desperately do not want to slip into this again as I will be of no use to anyone especially DP and DC.

Sorry not a aibu, but any experiences/advice welcome.

I am feeling the same kind of emotions at the moment. Found out DM has cervical cancer, DB got married last week, I am buying a house and planning my wedding for next year and I feel like if I get happy or excited for anything it will upset DM and make everyone anxious.

DM is having her first lot of Chemotherapy today and I feel guilty because I have had to come into work and am unable to be there to support her (my stepdad is there and has been all day so far and they advise only 1 person per patient due to space issues).

All I can offer is to speak to Macmillan - they have some wonderful counselling services and a great support network for people who are close to cancer sufferers. It affects everyone but you aren't alone.

Thank you for your reply samanthalou and sorry that you are going through similar with your mum I hope her treatment is successful

It is such a difficult and confusing time. We don't know what stage this is yet and I am terrible for dwelling on worst case scenario. Parent would rather not ask questions and prefers to take things as they come. I am the opposite!

I just don't know how to behave tbh. This is supposed to be a happy time for my family and now my poor DP is understandably terrified. We all are.