Bad parent for trying to feed my DC healthy food

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Wondered if anyone else gets this sort of pressure and AIBU for finding it frustrating. Basically I try to feed my DC a good healthy diet. Not to the extremes just a good balance. I rarely add any salt to their food and limit sugar. They really only have water and milk for drinks. Have had the occasional juice drink. I do allow them to have a sweet treat once or twice a week. To me this is good parenting as I want them to grow up as healthy as possible.
However a lot of family members often insinuate how 'mean' I am l (their words) Comments including 'Why won't I give them proper crisps? (I give them baby crisps suitable for their age and they like them) 'They need some squash adding to their water.' 'Poor things you had sweets all the time as a child' ( I did and have a massive sweet tooth now and have lost three teeth due to it) They always want to give them sweet treats. What they don't seem to understand is if I said yes to every person who wanted to they would be having 'sweet treats' every day.
I know it's not really a big issue at all I just want to vent I think.

Well their clearly ignorant. Have you said yes and I lost 3 teeth?

Moderation is key. The parents who are too strict on anything will have thier kids turn into zombies at someones else's house over sweets, TV, computers... Anything that's denied too much or restricted!!

And don't make it a big deal when you do give it.
Also I was worried proper crisps would choke my dc when young we had carrot stick things.

Ignore or find good phrase to shut down.

Ignore them

I had this with mine, it's bloody annoying, especially the passive aggressive 'oh, mummy is being mean'. I read on here once to try to direct those people who want to give sweets all the time, to encourage them to give little tokens, so an age appropriate magazine, or hair bobbles, or colouring pencils or whatever. Some people (especially grandparents) just seem to want to shower their grandchildren with gifts.
We also have some friends who love to give shite-y stuff to my dc. Now, as the dc return from a visit, clutching armfuls of haribo and plastic tat, they detour to the bin to dispose of most of it. They understand that these people express their love through gifts, but really, my dc don't like the rubbishy plastic-y stuff that breaks as soon as you use it, and they certainly don't like haribo!

We have this. Constantly giving DD sweets, squash, cake etc - she's actually got a really good diet & we're very lucky that she eats such a wide variety of veg & isn't too fussy. Why oh why do other people think that it's ok to constantly add crap to her diet - especially those whose health, teeth etc are terrible, but they don't seem to see the link.

My son was about 4 before he realised that the juice in his opaque water bottle (ie. water) was different to the juice that many of his friends had.

I know a girl whose parents restricted everything. Only allowed treats on a weekend.

At school she'd eat everybody else's junk food. In all an unhappy child.

This doesn't happen to me but it sounds super frustrating. I do have one relative who is really snobby about food and obsessed with not eating sugar but then rages about Bella Mama jam though which makes me a bit . Maybe inside your relatively confused little minds you are being similarly hypocritical because you ate this crap when you didn't know any better? Or perhaps they are just trying to make themselves feel better for feeding you shit like those people who insist the circumcision is good for children.

When we went for tea at a relative's house they always did a pudding and would sit next to ds whilst he was eating it saying " that's good, that's better than carrots etc" the whole time he was eating.