'm posting here for traffic out of desperation.
Been with DP for 6 years and have a 1yo. I care about him deeply, he is kind, generous, sweet, a great partner and father. But something is just missing - I don't fancy him anymore and think if I'm totally honest with myself I'm just not in love with him anymore. It is making me really depressed as he is everything I would want in a partner, but I guess you can't just force something that is missing.
2 years ago we actually broke up for the same reasons, however after a few months I missed him so much that I thought I'd made a mistake and we got back together. However whilst we were apart he was so miserable that the thought of putting him through that again is just awful and of course all of his friends and family will think I've just screwed him over again.
I'm scared - scared to be on my own, scared to leave my home, scared of being financially unstable, scared of my daughter not having us together in one home. And most of all scared of hurting him when he has done nothing wrong.
If I could choose I would want more than anything to love him again. But I just don't.
Could anyone please give me advice on how to tell someone you're just not physically attracted/in love with them anymore? He is already very insecure and has low self esteem and I know this will really affect him - he is not at all resilient.
Sorry if this is very rambled and rushed, I just feel very down and upset about it all.