To be angry with MIL

[Newtothis18]

Scrolling through my Facebook feed tonight to come across my MIL’s post asking people to vote for my baby to win the competition of being the cutest. There is now a picture and name of my child on a website that I have never chosen to use myself without my consent. People that I don’t know have been voting, sharing, commenting. Am I over exaggerating here or should I of been asked permission before plastering pictures of my child on a random website asking people to vote for them?

Yanbu. Message the company and tell them to get that photo down!

Ooh i'd be kicking off. And making her withdraw the photo immediately. Nobody posts photos of my kids anywhere without speaking to me & DP first. How fecking dare she

YANBU. Really not OK for her to do that without at least asking you first

I would be furious.

Just speak to her and ask her to take it down. She did it for the best of reasons and just didn't think! Tbh, my ddil would do it herself without a second thought!

Firstly check your partner didn't give her the go ahead to do it, just in case. But if they didn't then no, YANBU. Message them, explain someone entered your child without your permission and get it taken down. And message your MIL to tell her it's not acceptable. I thought you had to sign a form to say you were parents/guardians or had permission from a parent to enter these?

Singlenotsingle, how is entering a child that isn't yours into one of these completions doing it 'for the best of reasons'?

You are absolutely not being unreasonable. Ask her to get it taken down. She really should have asked you first and it’s odd that she hasn’t

What is it with these women!!???

As pp gave stated, email the organisers directly and they'll remove your dd from the competition and publications.

Part of the rules about taking part in these are that you have permission so she's well out of order for that as well as disregarding you as the mother too!!

Assuming your partner didn’t tell her it was ok to do this she’s out of order and I’d be finding out how to remove my child’s picture from the page/website. I’m always a bit dubious about the cutest baby competition things I see pop up on my feed.

YANBU by putting your child in this competition you don't know what the terms state. She could have agreed that the pictures be used in further advertising etc.
Contact the company directly and tell her straight!

I would have lost the plot. As others have said ask your OH if he gave her permission. Take it from there

I'd contact the organiser and ask them to remove it, and make clear that permission has not been given to use the photo. The T&Cs on these kind of competitions often allow the organiser to use the photos as they see fit, including across press and possibly in advertising. Your MIL has obviously got carried away but she has crossed the line for sure. Why didn't she tell you directly do you think?

I have a feeling (based on my own focus group of one) that DMs and MILs sometimes feel a crazy level of ownership over grandchildren. My DM calls my DC ‘my baby’ and would def pull crazy stunts like this.

Stupid woman!

Check the website/company out first, and then make sure that you look for reviews etc. If it all checks out as legitimate then I wouldn't make too much of a fuss this time. I would definitely speak to MIL regarding this to make sure that it never happens again, I'd be mindful of the fact that she's done it because she's proud and wants to show her DGC off - some people are far too trusting. If you have a good relationship with her then it shouldn't be too difficult, but make sure she knows that it's really dangerous to have pictures out there and especially when you don't know the origins of the company. Many bogus companies set these types of things up, it's important she knows this.

If it doesn't check out as safe or legitimate then that's another matter, you have be a lot less compassionate. This isn't a nice situation, sorry OP.

I'm usually fairly chilled about the supposed horrors that MN MILs do, but on this occasion she is bang out of order. Ring her and get it removed. I bet she's had to sign or tick in a box to say she had approval to publish the picture. Which would be a lie,

Very naughty indeed.

YADNBU. I would go ape if my MIL ever did that. Tell her to take the photo down and withdraw your baby from the 'competition'.

I'd get the photo taken down myself and raise a concern with the site that parental permission was NOT given.

Then i'd get DH to tell his DM what we'd done and why.

If you, or anyone else, have ever posted a photo of your DS online you are trying to bolt the stable after the horse has already bolted.

IF you have never posted a photo online and your mil knows that, then you have every right to go ballistic.

Wow! she has crossed a line. Tell her how upset you are or get her son to. In fact - do both!

Singlenotsingle, how is entering a child that isn't yours into one of these completions doing it 'for the best of reasons'
I would hazard a guess and say she was having a proud grandma moment and thinks her grand kid is the cutest.