Silver anniversary

[toomanycuddlytoys]

10.50 am DH hasn't even come downstairs yet. I've taken DS to sport club early this morning and done food shop, mopped etc. I text him earlier when was on the bus to suggest lunch out and he just replied "can do". So I've had to book the table. There's no flowers and it just feels like another day.
AIBU to feel slightly tearful?

It's only 11am. Give him a chance, he may have organised all manner of things that will appear later. Happy anniversary!

What have you got planned for him, apart from the lunch?

Have you talked about how you’d like to celebrate your anniversary together? I don’t see that it need be a day of surprises.
Congratulations btw

All of this is a communication issue. My husband and I would have had many conversations on how we would have liked to celebrate our anniversary. Why would I say nothing and expect him to come up with some massive surprise and then be disappointed when he didn't? Is he usually good at being generous on anniversaries etc? If not, then I think after that long being married to him YABU. Although YANBU to expect him to get his ass out of bed before 11am, anniversary or not!

Anniversaries are shared endeavours in our household - yes, we might get gifts or plan little things for our anniversary, but we're an equal part of the relationship's successful continuance, and it wouldn't occur to either of us to not talk about our plans.

To add balance to the other side. Dh is not great at anniversaries, Valentines etc. He would think lunch was fine. Does he know it’s 25 years?!

My husband isn't great at celebrations so imagine my surprise when he started talking about our 25th months in advance! I would have liked a surprise (which he then did for my 50th birthday and it wasn't great!) but realised I'd get my input if he asked about everything, which he did even down to the exact present I wanted! 😂

Don't silently seethe; do ask him! He may yet surprise you 😀

Well if you want a celebration wouldn't the sensible approach be to raise the subject a few weeks ago. "It is our silver weeding on the 21st August. What shall we do to celebrate?" Then plan it together.

Have you really not broached the subject at all and then expect to find he has filled the day with surprises? How do you know he is not lying at home thinking "Oh dear toomanycuddl toys seems to have forgotten. Maybe she doesn't want a fuss"

We had a holiday away to celebrate ours. Which we planned together