Who IBU here? Unattended kids

[Crunchymum]

I was in the shower and DP went to the shop across the road leaving our 5yo, 3yo and baby unattended.

It's probably less than a minute there and back, the road is small and one way.

His argument is that I leave the kids unattended when I have a shower most mornings, my issue is I didn't know I was in charge of the kids (and why didn't he wait until I was out??)

It's all a bit of a none event I realise, I could barely be arsed to type this

YANBU its a small thing but he should have let you know you were the adult in charge of the kids. If you hear a scream and you know DH is there you're not going to jump out of the shower where as you might if he was there. Like you said though it's small issue.

They weren’t unattended. You were in the house.

It would have been better if he’d told you but I don’t think it’s worth making a deal about.

I think it's important that you know you are responsible for the children so YANBU.

I had a similar conflict with my DH a few months back when I was out in the kitchen prepping dinner and he was with DS(18mo) in the living room. He went upstairs to do some DIY. Thought it was fine because I was in the next room and I do this often throughout the day when it's just me and DS - which is true, but at least I know to keep an eye on him!

Of course YANBU. Knowing you are in charge of the kids and thinking you are free to have a relaxing shower because DH has them are two entirely different things.

YANBU!

He should have shouted to you to say he was going out for a minute, so you knew. Maybe he should have taken the baby with him anyway, depending how safe the area is where the baby was left. (Sleeping baby in cot = fine, baby in not-entirely-babyproofed room = a bit dodgy.)

I think it's fine and wuld have done similar.