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Aibu To speak to parents?

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Jiggy16 · 20/08/2018 16:15

Not a regular poster so please bear with me I'll try to explain myself. I live on a very narrow and awkward street, with right angle corners, I am one of the corner houses. This was my family home and when my parents moved on we bought the house as I love it and it's in a great location etc. So I know some of the neighbours but a lot of newer neighbours and don't know people very well. We are really struggling with the noise etc now in the street, lots of kids now and as visibility isn't great the kids all play outside our house. Annoying for us but I know why they play there. The issue is the kids don't seem to respect our boundaries, they play in our drive (we've no gates yet) and lift stuff out of our garden. We've told the kids a no of times to stay out of our garden but they don't listen. Our cars are also getting hit with balls fairly regularly now. More than any other carS. It's really stressing me out! I can't sit in my living room without hearing them. At the min I feel there is little we can do other than speak to them when they're on our property/hitting our property. Today tho there are 2 older boys (one is a teenager) in the street that come out to kick a ball about, again at our house and they properly boot the ball up and down the street. I'm fairly certain I heard my car being hit a few times so stood where I could watch them, then my car got hit again and the ball came into my drive, the boy came in to get it. I spoke out the window 'u need to stop hitting my car' of which the boy just looked up then ignored me. This has happened a no of times in the past were he ignored me so I went outside and he walked off. I spoke to the younger one (maybe 10/11) and said it's not fair my cars getting hit all the time and I think he mumbled sorry - fine, the other kept walking off when I called him - I said I'm trying to speak with u or something. He went into his drive then just closed the gates in my face all still ignoring me standing there! ( but it's fine to hit my car and come into my propertyHmm) I then said again, u need to stop hitting my car I've told u guys before to which he just said I didn't then mumbled something I said u don't need to be rude to me. I then walked back, soon as I was inside their back out again and as he ran past my window he gave me the fingers! I am fuming about this and now worried my car will be targeted. I don't want to be hated on my street but I just want my property and privacy to be respected. Aibu in going to his parents about this, i don't even know how I would tackle it. But feel if I don't address the rudeness he'll think he can do whatever to me. Sorry for such a long post!

OP posts:
Shannaratiger · 20/08/2018 16:18

I would talk to the parents. Definitely would also get gates fitted.

ButchyRestingFace · 20/08/2018 16:19

Can you film them on your phone and then approach the parents?

Sammyham88 · 20/08/2018 16:43

If he's ignoring you and then flipping you the bird then this kid doesn't sound like he's been raised very well at all and would make me worry how seriously his parents would handle the situation, I guess as a first attempt to resolve what's happening I'd go speak to them, remaining calm but making sure they realise how much this is impacting the quite enjoyment of your home and how no one deserves to be ignored and then sworn at etc.

If It doesn't get any better I'd go round again, this time informing them that any damage to your car will be billed to them and further action taken if this type of behaviour still continues.

Hopefully it will stop but if it doesn't then I'd call 111, report them for anti social behaviour and get a cheap cctv camera and document any damage caused to your car or items in your garden, know it might sound a bit strong to do all that but sounds like you've tried to be reasonable and been rudely ignored/ disrespected and I mean FFS, know you said your streets narrow etc but can't they kick the ball at their own family property/ possessions? And if he's a teenager go to a park?

Starlighter · 20/08/2018 16:51

How annoying and not on. A polite note to the parents would be my first move. Then gates, cameras and sprinklers would be next!

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