At breaking point!

[mummyoftwincesses]

Not really an AIBU but don't seem to be getting answers anywhere else sorry!
could really do with some help!
Will try keep it as short as possible!
My twins will be 8 months on the 22nd and since they were 6 months old their bedtime routine has just gone to pot and feels like it’s just getting worse. We would come up to the quiet darkened bedroom &
They used to have their last bottle between 5.30-6 and fall asleep after finishing it then we would put them down then they’d sleep through until 6 ish.
Now they can be up until about 7.30/8, crying, wanting to play ect, and then we have to struggle and rock them to sleep. They can wake up hourly then be up for the day at 4.30. I tried CC for like one night and couldn’t bare hearing the blood curdling screams. They have 3, half an hour naps a day generally at around the same time.
Have tried dropping one of the naps but to no avail.
We are at our wits end and other than asking the HV I don’t know what else to do.
Thanks for reading

Yeah we have a vtech projector, it's great but nothing seems to work at the moment

Not much help but I promise it gets better!

If you figure it out, let me know!

I have an almost eight month old as well, who has followed a very similar pattern to your twins.

She naps like your twins nap (3x30 mins) when she's teething. And is then up during the night. It sounds to me like yours are teething and you'll see some teeth through soon (though my DD's last two took four weeks of pain to come in!)

If having a baby has taught me one thing it's that everything is a phase and nothing is forever. So it won't be long before it all changes again.

Remember that what is being suggested is only a guide. All babies are different. Ds2 From 2 months went down around 7:30pm and woke around 4:30am without fail every day. It became our norm. He did start sleeping later- when he started school! But he’s like his dad, they don’t need much sleep. However ds1 slept 7:30-7:00 from about 12 weeks, so when ds2 came along it was a shock to the system!

With the 4:30 am wake ups- don’t get up with them. Pretend it is 11pm or 2am - its the middle of the night. They need to know that it is just too early. They need way more sleep. Reassure yourself that you are doing thus for their correct development svc yoyr own sanity. Stay in the room and say “shh night time - get a bean bag/ mattress,cushions make yourself comfortable and lie in the room with them. Be as Sh!t boring as possible! No toys, songs, lights, milk.... gentle laying them down to sleep rubbing their back sroking their face if they need it in cot repeating same words over and over like a cracked record while they scream and fuss like mad most probably but hang in there it WILL work!

Meant no to toys, lights, songs, milk etc
But fine to rub their backs, stroke face etc in case the wasn’t clear

It has really worked for us but it has been hard work - like other people have said, it means treating 4:30 wake ups like the night time, sometimes staying with him for an hour! But it's so much better now.

The Sleepy Nanny has written a book, which has been just as helpful, it's about £10! Highly recommend this method myself. It explains temperament and how this can affect sleep and what to do!

I know the misery of sleep deprivation so I'm sending you a hug - it's awful and I really hope it improves soon!

Thanks so much for your replies everyone. If I knew it was just a phases I wouldn't mind but everything runs through your head doesn't it, questioning if your doing it all wrong, what could I change to make it better ect. Think it makes it worse they were such brilliant sleepers for 3 months it was a total shock to the system. We've been up 4 times so far tonight. Will certainly take all your advice on board and give it a go!

What time if their afternoon nap? Needs to be 1ish or thereabouts

Yeah it's normally between 1-2