To be very worried?

[prioritycoppers]

Hi all, name changed for this.

DP and I split a year ago for what seemed indefinitely at the time but a year on we’ve reconnected.

About a week ago he felt a lump in his teste and has managed to go get it checked today as the pain has increased to the point he’s in a lot of pain. He’s texting me now as he’s been seen in triage and been asked if he has had unprotected sex. I’m now worried they think it could be an STI.

I have had unprotected sex (I’m contraception) but could’ve picked something up while we were broken up and slept with other people.

We’ve never talked about what either of us did in the year we were not together so for all I know he could have slept with someone.

Equally it could be a cyst or something worse but I’m worried incase it is an STI and it ruins the relationship we have worked so hard to rebuild.

Well there's not much you can do except both get tested. How many unprotected sex partners are we talking about , although of course it only takes one.

Sorry, it's not very clear what you mean by:
"I have had unprotected sex (I’m contraception) but could’ve picked something up while we were broken up and slept with other people. "

Are you worried that you had unprotected sex and have passed something to him? Or that he had unprotected sex and may have passed something to you?

STI's are sadly very common, so I would suggest anyone get's checked out if they've had unprotected sex. However I know in reality people get embarrassed and don't do this, and also throw caution to the wind in the throes of passion! So even if it isn't an STI that's behind the lump, it probably wouldn't hurt for both of you to get tested if you had unprotected sex with others.

If it is an STI, then there is treatment, so try not to worry too much about unknowns at the moment.

Equally he could have had unprotected sex during your break-up. Don’t borrow trouble; wait until you know what you’re dealing with.

Ok think either way you should get tested anyway. It doesn’t hurt to check your all clear even if this isn’t an std.

If you've both had unprotected sex, why wasn't getting tested the first thing you did after getting back together?

And anyway, if sleeping around unprotected, you should go for a check up every three months.

I'd be more concerned it was something more serious but hopefully its nothing at all.