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Facebook/Boyfriend/Likes

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BeekyChitch · 19/08/2018 23:27

AIBU to be a little bit jealous/peed off my boyfriend likes pictures of other girls on Facebook. Is this normal? I wouldn’t dare say to him and let the psycho in me slip out. Or dare I?

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BuntyII · 19/08/2018 23:29

Depends. Is he liking pictures of his female friends with their kids or doing something interesting? Or is he liking pictures of 25 year olds doing ducks arse pout selfies?

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BeekyChitch · 19/08/2018 23:35

Well it’s pictures of girls faces or girls on nights out. I did search ‘pictures liked by BF’ it’s a pretty new relationship as well so I’m not sure whether to let crazy me out or not.

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Beautifulblue · 19/08/2018 23:37

It would piss me off a bit 😬 But that's probably being immature & unreasonable? But it still would! Does it have dates? If it's a new relationship are they from before or now? I just always suspect that men liking women's photos means... I think you look hot.

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BeekyChitch · 19/08/2018 23:46

It’s from a couple days ago! I feel as if I should say something in a joking way but at the same time be the crazy gf. I should say this is the first relationship in 5 years so I’m being wary and extra vigilant. We also had a lovely day today and I feel like I’m ruining it for myself.

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meadowmeow · 19/08/2018 23:55

New relationship and you are checking out who's picture he has liked on FB Hmm

Why?

Voice0fReason · 19/08/2018 23:56

You actually searched for pictures he has liked?
End the relationship, there is no future in it.

Beautifulblue · 19/08/2018 23:58

Yes checking the phone this early on might be perceived as a bit crazy OP! I would really push this one to the back of your mind & move on... sometimes men don't get as 'serious' in their minds as we do as quickly... so he might just be adjusting. He hasn't really done anything wrong, so just leave it. Even if you bring it up in a jokey way it'll turn into a sarcastic hmmmm convo! I know it, you know it! Have a peaceful life... keep stum! 🤐

PaulAnkaDog · 20/08/2018 00:00

You can check what pictures someone has liked?!

Also, batshit. Don’t be that person.

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BeekyChitch · 20/08/2018 00:04

Haha yes! You’re all totally right. I’m overthinking and being crazy. It’s getting pushed to the back of my head. I noticed a picture first of all on my timeline then I wondered who else has he liked hence the ‘photos liked by’ will NOT be doing that again. 🤢

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Beautifulblue · 20/08/2018 00:19

@BeekyChitch 😂 Best not!

batshitbetty · 20/08/2018 00:22

Don't be THAT girl - clingy, needy and jealous is sure fire way to sabotage your relationship. He likes peoples posts/photos, so what? Do you fancy everyone whose posts/photos you like? 🤔

gamerchick · 20/08/2018 00:25

I dont think it's occured to me to do that search on Facebook Confused

dogaregreat · 20/08/2018 00:44

No OP get it out there, at the beginning of a relationship if you intend to stay with this person. You need to both no what the other person will not stand for. Eg when me and my partner met I told him looking at other girls is a deal breaker or watching porn. Ten years on he has never done it the same goes for me as his thing was the same.

It can sound mad but at the end of the day people like different stuff, and you need to establish it at the beginning before you get real feelings and then they start watching open 6 months down the line your like no and he is saying yes. It is more fucked up because you have stronger feelings.

Just do it OP, I would don't mention all of them coz it sounds a little crazy but mention the one where it has cow. Up.

slashlover · 20/08/2018 00:54

These women could be colleagues, friends, his sister's friends, or he could just go through his feed and like photos which appear.

I like male friends picture on FB or twitter and it doesn't mean anything other than 'nice picture'.

esk1mo · 20/08/2018 01:15

its perfectly normal to do in this day and age, dont feel bad OP. it can be an indicator of his future behaviour.

my exDP followed alot of porn-type twitter accounts when we first met, which i used to check up on and he ended up with a porn addiction 🤷🏻‍♀️

social media is so normal now that its an extension of who we are. if you had a boyfriend who argued with people in comments and “liked” UKIP posts then you’d learn alot about him, same with what kind of pictures he likes.

its a new relationship though, so he might not feel its that much of a big deal until you are more serious. nothing wrong with being aware and keeping an eye on it from time to time.

SlothSlothSloth · 20/08/2018 01:21

I wouldn’t want to be with the kind of man who likes loads of sexy pics by different women. It’s creepy and would make me think less of him.

But if they’re not sexy pics then it’s normal? They’re surely just his friends.

Monday55 · 20/08/2018 01:22

sorry but you sound desperate... Relax and stop stalking.

Skarossinkplungerridesagain · 20/08/2018 02:37

Yep "let the crazy out" now so he can realise what he has got himself into.

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