To date a 22 year old?

[Joovy]

I'm 33... He's bloody gorgeous and we've really hit it off. Plus he's wealthy as fuck.

It's not a massive gap and anyway, he's obv not after your house/money.

Plus he is wealthy wow just wow .

Wealthy at 23 because he is driven.

Yeah if you say so

@amusedbush He's a mechanic. We met when I had car trouble. He looks much older than he is (and I look much younger). He flirted. He gave me his number (in case I had more car trouble ). I thought 'what the hell?' and texted him and we went on a date. We were both surprised when ages came up in the conversation, but by that time we were getting on ..... and that's it really.

He is incredibly mature and extremely intelligent, and very solvent(and hot!) and driven and kind and supportive, and loving and everything else that makes a good partner. So for now the age gap isn't causing any problems. But it does make me sad that I'm sure it will sooner or later.

You can do whatever you like.
I’m 30 and I think I’d struggle to click with most 22 year old men - different priorities, maturity levels etc.
Obviously they’re not all the same, but most are more into the casual/party stage of life which I have grown out of.

But whatever works for you!

Depends on your situation and what you want really. I'm 28 and wouldn't date a 22 year old but I'm a single mum and I'd worry that a 22 year old wouldn't be able to cope with that responsibility.

If you're single, no kids then why not.

They're an adult, as are you but the "is it creepy rule" divide older person's age by by 2 and add 7 suggests the youngest person it's appropriate for you to be with would be 23 and a half.

Dunno, early 20s seems young to me. For a 33 year old. What's the yard stick? Half your age plus 7? I guess it's not too far off that.

Age gaps don't matter once the younger member is past their mid 20s IMO.

@amusedbush - Oh and I'm ten years older than his mother. But surprisingly that hasn't caused problems either.

x post sal :)

Yeah YABU

As the dm of a 22 year old I would find you odd, if not creepy. . But as everyone says, both are adults, so..

cat what will happen if he wants children later on?

Does he work in Albert Square?

@LeftRightCentre - he is sure he doesn't want them (he's as sure as I was at his age - and I never changed my mind either). But I don't think we will be together forever. There will come a time when I start to look old, and whatever he says now, I don't think we can survive that. So he will have plenty of time to have children in future should he decide that's what he wants after all.

Is this 22 year old a YouTuber? I'm struggling to think of another way he could be "wealthy as fuck" without family money.

I just can't see how someone in their late 50s could have a good relationship with someone in their early 20s. You're older than his mum. I just can't see how it could work.

I’m genuinely curious and not just trying to be an arsehole but how does a 53 year old start dating a 20 year old? My dad wasn’t even 53 when I was 20. It’s just such a large age gap, I can’t imagine how a relationship would start up.

Well, in the same manner as any relationship starts: online, at work, in the gym, in the pub ..... anywhere.

Well, it does. We have similar personalities. He is very bright and very funny and thoughtful. I'm more of a party animal than he is. We have similar reactions to things. It works.

As the dm of a 22 year old I would find you odd, if not creepy. . But as everyone says, both are adults, so..

Fair enough. However, I'm not interested in any guy, irrespective of age, who's still taking dating advice from his mother ....

It's OK for a fling, he's a grown man. If the pair of you decided to marry he might want someone younger in ten years time.

Yuck thecatneuterer and I'd say that if you were male too. Anybody who is attracted to someone young enough to be their child grandchild is a bit twisted IMO. Do you have DC?

In answer to the OP, I wouldn't. I prefer to have sexual relationships with my peers.

It's OK for a fling, he's a grown man. If the pair of you decided to marry he might want someone younger in ten years time.

Or he might not. Or if the OP were to marry someone the same age they might want someone younger in ten years time. Relationships don't come with guarantees. It shouldn't stop you giving things a go.

Ten years older than his mother!!!!! I’m sorry. But no, oh my god no.

MadMum, well you're welcome to your opinion. And no I don't have children.