To look back and cringe

[Purplecrocsrock]

When i had DD, we lived with my in laws, and i was so so 'rude' or overbearing about DD
I stayed in my room most of the time, and when i didnt and went down obv they wanted to hold her, i let them for like 5 minutes then scooped her back to me!
I just wanted her all to myself, or to be downstairs and not be asked could someone else hold her! PFB and all that..
Just been asked if i had Post natal depression cause of it.. now wondering if i did, and didn't know about it, or i was jjst conpletely bonkers for not wanting anyone else to hold her! Im much better now shes older
So was i bonkers or too precious about DD?? Or normal??

Did you have other PND symptoms?

I don’t think you were normal - everyone I know who’s had babies have been happy for other people to hold them. So it may we’ll be that you had something else going on that was making you feel that way! Are you alright now? Do you have good support?

I cried a few times, i was told my in laws were crazy over babies and they would take over- i didn't want them too!!
I'm fine now, leave her with a few people i trust but for an hour at most, shes 16 months and still breastfed
Maybe it links back to my own mother/father neglecting me? I dunno!

How's your relationship with them now? I don't think wanting to have your baby with you is that weird tbh as long as you're rude about it.

All ok, whenever i go round though its give me baby sit her in my lap! Which is ok- grandparents are for
I think i was maybe too over protective of her looking back

That doesn’t sound rude to me but maybe a bit precious, they only want to love your daughter like you do, after all. It sounds like you’ve loosened up now though and that’s good for you too so you can get a break every now and then.👍🏽